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User Topic: Don't Bite the Hook by Pema Chodron - Audiobook
SwitchedOnLotus
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, December 19th (Saturday), 2009View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm bringing this audiobook for the long drive to home state from state of residence this holiday season. I think it will be essential listening for WH and I as we prepare to face family and friends in home state who know about the A...this might save us from reacting to them, thus eliminating many of the usual holiday scenes .

Highly recommend it to those interested in Chodron's work or just a way to process the "bait" family loves to put out.


BS - SwitchedOnLotus, 35
WH - 40 4 Month EA/ PA D-Day 1:7-2009/D-Day 2: 10-29-2009
11-29-09 Began R/9-02-10 A in past,M bttr thn B4
"It isn't what happens to us that matters, but how we choose to interpret it and react"

Posts: 518 | Registered: Oct 2009
everlast
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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, January 21st (Thursday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How did the holidays go for you? A friend gave me When Things Fall Apart last year. I keep it close to me and am wading through it slowly. She offers amazing insight into spiritually surviving this experience. I hope it's been helpful for you!


BS (me) 35
WH 38
D Day 11/19/08
DS 5 DD 3

Posts: 8 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Minnesota
Skye
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Member # 325
Default  Posted: 7:47 AM, January 22nd (Friday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I just started listening to her "Getting Unstuck" audiobook. Hope it helps.

Posts: 5632 | Registered: Jul 2002
SwitchedOnLotus
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Member # 25902
Default  Posted: 2:23 PM, January 23rd (Saturday), 2010View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It's funny, because I used to resent having to listen to my mother's self-help and devotional tapes in the car on family road trips...but FWH, myself, and the kids listened to Pema (for the second time!) on this trip out. It gave FWH and I a great set of tools for dealing with sticky situations back home, where I had disclosed the A to several family members and a friend for support this summer. I didn't know how they would be around FWH, and if they'd be upset with me for R'ing (as I've found the most common reaction to hearing of an R being that people tell you to leave the WS). We ended up using Pema's advice more to deal with our own R-ing process and to deal with our own personal reactions to basic interpersonal situations. It works very well! I was able to be direct, honest, and still caring with family members when they asked my opinion of various family squabbles.

Family game night was the most hilarious - people began to snap and get embroiled in the negative sniping one by one. I told them that we all needed to be respectful of one another to have a good family game night, and that if we weren't able to be so, I would opt out. They were stunned!

Great books! I love Pema's work - very applicable to everyday life.


BS - SwitchedOnLotus, 35
WH - 40 4 Month EA/ PA D-Day 1:7-2009/D-Day 2: 10-29-2009
11-29-09 Began R/9-02-10 A in past,M bttr thn B4
"It isn't what happens to us that matters, but how we choose to interpret it and react"

Posts: 518 | Registered: Oct 2009
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