ETA I've finished reading this book, and I think that it is great. It maybe even great for Tweens. There is a small study guide in the back that you should point out to the intended reader.
[This message edited by MovingUpward at 9:24 AM, February 17th (Wednesday)]
ETA: I just looked on Amazon, and surprisingly, there are two books with very similar names. This book, by Chad Eastham, is written for teens, according to the description. The book which I think was actually recommended by my counselor is "Men are Like Waffles; Women are Like Spaghetti" by Bill Farrell.
Who would have ever guessed there would be two books with such similar titles??
[This message edited by incredulous at 10:05 PM, February 13th (Saturday)]
The version by Chad Eastham is written with teens in mind, so I was thinking about it for my teen and upcoming tweens. It might not be as detailed and "clinical" but it maybe "entertaining" enough for them to learn something.
I'll give an update when I'm finished with it
***** God's hand was an avocado branch
Guys - waffles - lots of boxes (aka compartmentalization)
Girls - spaghetti - every issue touches other issues and are connected
Quote from the book describing a lost boy listening to a talkative girl.
Either he doesn't understand, or he doesn't know how to make the conversation work. For a guy, it's like being in the middle of a hockey game; you are playing hard and following the rules, but then suddenly the rules change and the puck is gone and the score is measured in smiley faces. And then miniature horses come out onto the ice and start galloping all miniature horse-like! And suddenly all the other players start singing songs in unison and yelling, "We're winning, we're winning!" (I have had nightmares like that.) This is how lost guys can feel when they are trying to follow along with a talkative girl. There isn't a right or wrong way; we're just very different.
Chad does bring God into the discussion and so far the mention of Adam and Eve.
He encourages girls not to look to define their significance in men, but in God.
Guys are there to appreciate and affirm your significance, not create it.
So far Chapter 1 -- forces the reader to recognize that guys and girls like different things
Chapter 2 -- defines the different thinking styles of guys (waffle) and girls (spaghetti)
Chapter 3 -- a quick biology lesson covering chromosomes, when in the gestation period does the Y chromosome change the course of development. Parts of the brain and how guys brains are different from girls brains.
Chapter 4 -- a focus on girls traits and needs
So at 1/4 of the way through I am giving this two thumbs up for teens. (BTW Chad spills the beans about Santa)
I have enjoyed the humor mixed in with facts and studies. A very easy read for kids. I have enjoyed the occassion but not overwhelming reminders that God loves you. And the common theme of different but equal.
[This message edited by MovingUpward at 12:27 AM, February 15th (Monday)]
Rock on.
Anger is not usually just anger, by the way. It's common cover-up feeling. In counseling, as soon as you ask a guy who says he is angry how he feels, the lid comes off. You discover that anger covers up that he feels hurt, neglected, unintelligent, and unloved.
Many guys seek constant affirmation from things and people through means of money, sex, power, and influence -- but these things will never leave them satisfied or secure. Ego should be healthy confidence, security, and strength, but again, not alwas the case.
OK first mention of Jesus Christ (not a problem for me)
We have a new, perfect example of what it means to be a guy. In him, we see all the intended guy traits that were designed by God, and we have the choice to use them as God intended rather than to pervert them. . . . . . He was self-sacrificing, he was great to his friends, and he lived a life of adventure. He was also ridiculously good at fishing.
Chapter 5 is about guys in general
Chapter 6 is about communication/body language
Chapter 7 More communication When love is spoken and not shown, it breaks relationships down instead of building them up
[This message edited by MovingUpward at 6:15 PM, February 15th (Monday)]
When it comes to dating, romance, and love, here is what you owe people: nothing. Love and dating should not be forced, and pressure doesn't exist in healthy relationships.
. . . .the point of dating is: getting to know someone over an extended amount of time to determine if a romantic relationship is something worrth pursuing. I thought if I said this twice, you might remember it more.
Relationships are suppose to be good.
People shouldn't walk away from marriage, but dating is not marriage.
I could probably just talk to myself and make up stuff here on the lonely thread
when you start talking about pink dresses and slumber parties with curlers I know you have gone off the deep end.
The book sounds great. I think I shall have to invest in it for my Rays!
Chapter 10 Dealing with Conflict
Chapter 11 Sex (done very nicely)
Chapter 12 How to Fail (tips to help the kids not to fail)
Chapter 13 "Your Brain Doesn't Work . . . Completely" points out that the development of the frontal lobe is ongoing until 25 and what that means.
A whole bunch of great info written toward a young audience. It is entertaining while instructive. If your child takes away only 10% of the what is discussed it is worth getting them to read it.
I am going to have to search for the original version written for Adults to see if the Farrels cite the studies that Eastham alludes to in his book.
On a scale of 1 to 10, I give it an 11.
[This message edited by MovingUpward at 9:54 AM, February 17th (Wednesday)]
Men are like Waffles, Women are like Spaghetti
Teen book (By Eastham and Farrel)
Guys are Waffles, Girls are Spaghetti
K-thanks Moo!! Will look them up.
Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences. ~Robert Louis Stevenson
