I am an avid reader, so when infidelity suddenly dropped in on my marriage, and stayed, I turned to books hoping to find a path out of the pain and confusion. Here is my list of the most memorable / Helpful:
1)
Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass
This book was the start of my own healing, and understanding that what I was experiencing was common in infidelity. If I had only one book to recommend to anyone experiencing infidelity, this would be it. *****
2)
Storms Can't Hurt the Sky: A Buddhist Path Through Divorce
Gabriel Cohen
I heard this author on NPR, and something resonated with me. The book was profoundly instrumental in my healing. And I am not a Buddhist. *****
3)
Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life: A Reasoned, Practical Guide to the Legal, Emotional and Financial Ins and Outs of Negotiating a Divorce Settlement
Sam Margulies
Of the MANY books I read on divorce, this one was the most sane. *****
4)
The Script: The 100% Absolutely Predictable Things Men Do When They Cheat
Elizabeth Landers
A very quick read. Kind of silly, yet it proved to be remarkably accurate. In the past 3 years I have read it several times, and I come away, feeling oddly better, as if what is unfolding in our marriage and divoce is just par for the infidelity para-course. ****
5)
The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life by Susan Anderson
Many people on this board have recommended this book. I too found it helpful, though not life changing. ****
6)
Loving What Is: Four Questions that can Change Your Life
By Byron Katie
This book gave me the essential tool set (the four questions and turn around) to stop the looping mind chatter and recognize how much "story" I had about who my husband was. *****
7)
Happily Ever After: Walking with Peace and Courage Through a Year of Divorce
by Kristin Armstrong
The Christian author, was the wife of bike rider Lance Armstrong. Some good daily insights that were, and continue to be helpful to me. ****
Other books I remember as making me laugh (at times):
Little Bitty Lies: A Novel
Mary Kay Andrews
Summer read kind of book, with infidelity as part of the plot. Funny ****
Mennonite in a Little Black Dress: A Memoir of Going Home
by Rhoda Janzen
The authors husband left her... for a man. Funny at times, snarky too. The Mennonite thing adds an interesting twist and is really about moving on. ****
Happens Every Day: An All-Too-True Story
Isabel Gillies
I remember reading this book and thinking too self "umm hmm, same for me, yes, most of us go through this too". *** stars.
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