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tooexhausted (original poster member #15232) posted at 9:40 PM on Saturday, August 7th, 2010
I am a 58 year old woman, divorced for 2 years now. XH was a serial philanderer. During the past 2 years I’ve been going to IC and have become very happy with myself. I was at the point of being alone, but not lonely, and embracing my life.
Lo and behold, I am now dating a wonderful man. He is grounded, no significant FOO issues, has custody of his 2 children (teenagers) who absolutely adore him.
Are there any good books out there addressing the issue of how to maintain “healthy” relationships? Through IC, I am working hard on trust issues, not only because of the activities of my XH but because I grew up in an alcoholic family. I did not cause my XH’s infidelities, but I realize now my contributions to the “unhealthy” aspects of my marriage.
Just trying to continue my growth. And also learn how to make the most of my new relationship which shows much promise.
Thanks in advance!!
notasaint ( member #28465) posted at 11:34 PM on Saturday, August 7th, 2010
Saving Your Second Marriage Before It Starts by Les and Leslie Parrot. Loved it and the workbooks!!!
Good luck, sounds like you're on a great path :)
Me - BW 36
Him - FWH 38 SLA (newlywednupset)
M < 1 year
D-days 8/2009 and 4/2010 TT to 10/2010
3 OW over the course of 2 years, all older, one married.
* My husband was in an open relationship from day one, he just failed to tell ME this.*
mellowmood ( member #2097) posted at 7:58 PM on Sunday, August 8th, 2010
I second that. I went to the Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts workshop and it was excellent.
Helen of Troy ( member #26419) posted at 3:14 PM on Friday, August 13th, 2010
Read Getting Naked Again: Dating, Romance, Sex, and Love When You've Been Divorced, Widowed, Dumped, or Distracted.It's not really about being literally naked. It was suggested here. I borrowed it from the library but will definitely be buying a copy!
Excellent read.
InnerLight ( member #19946) posted at 7:50 PM on Saturday, August 14th, 2010
How to Be An Adult in Relationship by David Riccho
I think that's the right author. He's a great mix of Bhuddism mindfulness and psychology. This is what I'd like to have in my next relationship.....
BS, 64 yearsD-day 6-2-08D after 20 years together
The journey from Armageddon to Amazing Life happens one step at a time. Don't ever give up!
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