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ozzy344 posted 1/10/2011 10:35 AM

Hi, can anyone recommend any good self help books. Not the books about repairing relationships (beyond that), or even understanding how the affair happened, but something to get me out of the funk/new limbo of where do I go from here.

Physically, I have kicked myself into shape and am actively socially. Just feel that mentally I need to get into shape.

SwitchedOnLotus posted 1/11/2011 16:18 PM

A great book I've been using to help me get my psyche healed after getting the rest of my life in order after all of this is "Self-Esteem: A Proven Program of Cognitive Techniques for Assessing, Improving, and Maintaining Your Self-Esteem" by Dr. Matthew McKay and Patrick Fanning.

There are exercises you do that help you shut down your inner critic - something I had problems with before the A and its fallout, but which the A amplified - and that help you set and achieve healthy goals for who you want to be. Can't recommend it highly enough! Hope this helps.

WhoIsThisWoman posted 1/25/2011 12:39 PM

My therapist recommended the following that I just picked up from the bookstore today:

The Wise Heart - Jack Kornfield

Calming your Anxious Mind - Jeffrey Brantley

Let me know if anyone has read them...

looking forward posted 1/25/2011 13:55 PM

Living the Truth by Keith Ablow, MD

Fighting2Survive posted 1/25/2011 19:03 PM

I'll second "Living the Truth." I picked it off a list of books for WS here on SI for FWH. We've both read it and found it helpful. He's using the exercises now as a sounding board for his IC. I don't think the benefits are limited to WS's only.