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dignity posted 5/3/2011 09:38 AM

- Passive aggressive males
- codependency in marriage
- regulating emotional intensity

Thanks!

UR_AN_IDIOT posted 5/3/2011 11:26 AM

Check these out to see if they fit for your situation.

No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover

Co-Dependent No More By Melody Beattie and her follow-up book Beyond Co-Dependent

dignity posted 5/3/2011 12:11 PM

Thanks... I have read co=dependent no more. Is the follow up very different?

WIll check no more mr. nice :)

UR_AN_IDIOT posted 5/3/2011 12:15 PM

The follow up was written after her divorce from a co-dependent marriage (per the internet description).

Fighting2Survive posted 5/3/2011 19:45 PM

Boundaries in Marriage by Cloud & Townsend. It mentions co-dependency, but as someone who struggles with co-dependency, I needed the help with defining healthy boundaries.

Dialectical Behavior Therapsy Skills Workbook: Practical DBT Exercises for Learning Mindfulness, Interpersonal Effectiveness, Emotional Regulation & Distress Tolerance by Matther McKay, PhD.

dignity posted 5/4/2011 12:00 PM

Thank you... I checked out the DBT book... looks good. Would you say it is more for people who are OVER emotional? Or for those who shut down/avoid distress and conflict? Or both?

Hope24 posted 5/4/2011 12:12 PM

The Emotionally Unavailable Man by Patti Henry.

Half of it is devoted to men and their healing, the other is written for his partner.

Fighting2Survive posted 5/7/2011 12:57 PM

Would you say it is more for people who are OVER emotional? Or for those who shut down/avoid distress and conflict? Or both

Both. However, I will say that FWH had a great deal of trouble dealing with emotions. He's a recovering alcoholic, and he drank to get rid of any uncomfortable emotion- and almost any emotion was uncomfortable. IC helped the most with dealing with this. His counselor used a step-wise approach with him to help him identify when he was having a feeling, what feeling it was, and decide what he needed to do with the feeling.

DBT takes a similar approach.

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