I found Dr. Keith Ablow's Living the Truth to be an invaluable resource and tool for self-discovery.
(ISBN 0-316-01782-5) ~ Dr. Keith Ablow, bestselling author and host of a new daily one-hour daytime-TV talk show, presents his first self-help book. Based on more than 20 years of clinical experience and highlighting stories from his own practice, Ablow shows how ignoring or burying painful memories and experiences can negatively affect every aspect of our lives, and he presents strategies to help the reader transform the pain of the past into the power of the future. In a world where short-term talk therapy and medication are the latest trends to "fixing" an unhappy life, Ablow's message is controversial. But though examining the past can be daunting, LIVING THE TRUTH is as comforting and rewarding as it is transformative. And through Ablow's fine storytelling skills, empathetic voice, and straight-up advice, the experience of reading this extraordinary book becomes the first step to living a truly authentic life.
Each chapter contains questions for the reader to answer, and the final result is a journal format.
example from Chapter 1:The Pain-To-Power Principle
I chose to read Living the Truth because on (insert date) my life as I knew it came to a crashing halt. I had been living a lie and my H found out the truth. Through almost four weeks of intense communication (and tears!!), we have embarked on a journey of forgiveness, understanding, truth, and eye-opening reality. We are hoping to start anew. The road ahead is unknown, but with strength and my belief in God, and our resolve, we can find a way to continue to love each other in deeper and more meaningful ways.
I went to the library and found this book and a couple of others. BH has read it thoroughly, and I have watched him change, ask questions, seek knowledge. So I have decided to reread this book cover to cover, answering the questions as honestly as I can.
Chapter 2: Living Behind Shields
Chapter 3: Understanding the Four Fictions
Chapter 4: The Four Faces of Pain
Chapter 5: Why We Deny The Truth
Chapter 6: Why We Repeat The Past
Chapter 7: Are We Hardwired to Run From Pain?
Chapter 8: Understanding the Family Fiction
......I am still working on this journal!