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"Necessary Endings" by Henry Cloud

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KLinNoCA posted 6/15/2011 12:56 PM

Anyone else read this book yet? It's amazing!

A lot of the theories in the book are "business" related examples, but applying them (and he shows you how to do this) into your personal life is so very helpful when you're left with the "why" and "how did this happen?" questions screwing with your mind--

It's helped me so much to just let go of a lot of the anger and unresolved questions I have. I highly recommend it if you're going through the same phase I'm in right now--past the anger and into the "why" phase of letting go...

heart_in_a_blend posted 6/15/2011 13:32 PM

I haven't read this book but I will check it out.

I did read Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud and it has changed my life with all my relationships.

KLinNoCA posted 6/15/2011 13:55 PM

Was it Boundaries in Dating? I finished that book earlier this year at it changed my way of thinking about dating and relationships.

heart_in_a_blend posted 6/15/2011 14:06 PM

No it just called Boundaries. Dr. John Townsend wrote it with him. I went through a class at church and we used his book as a workbook with video tapes to go with it.

Fighting2Survive posted 6/17/2011 23:00 PM

I've read Boundaries and Boundaries in Marriage (this one with FWH) and I learned a lot from both books. I recommend them here all the time.

I haven't read Necessary Endings, but I will look for it.

KLinNoCA posted 6/18/2011 00:55 AM

I'm so impressed with this book--I can't recommend it enough for those who are struggling to get over the end of your marriage--it's really helped me a lot and it's helping many in this book group I'm in.

Skye posted 6/18/2011 09:58 AM

I picked it up at the library yesterday and plan to start it tonight. Thanks for the suggestion. I hope he addresses ending very long time situations. I can't help but believe it is easier to end a short time situation, be it a business or a relationship than one of many, many years.

KLinNoCA posted 6/18/2011 16:27 PM

Skye,
He does talk about ending long-term relationships..toxic ones. I think Ch. 3 or 4 explains this.

Fighting2Survive posted 6/18/2011 17:34 PM

Is it helpful for other endings as well? I haven't ended my M, but FWH's A has brought about the end of other relationships that both of us are still struggling to come to terms with.

KLinNoCA posted 6/18/2011 18:37 PM

Fighting,

It is helpful in ending relationships and understanding the need to end these..
There are many "business" relationships he talks about, but he also refers to personal relationships. It's really helped me to understand the need to "let go"..I have not only my marriage to let go of, but a very toxic relationship with my mother, which has been more difficult lately

I would love to hear what you guys think about this book once you've started it

Skye posted 6/19/2011 08:08 AM

I started it last night. Not sure it addresses what I'm looking for. But I'll keep going.

I wish I could get my husband to read it. He is the one who doesn't realize the ending is necessary and won't help us get there. I don't have the strength to do it alone. I read the first chapter and the man who is making the choices is strong.

Does he address the beaten down businessman who has nowhere to do and no resources to get there????

Helen of Troy posted 6/19/2011 09:33 AM

I'm going to check it out, thank you.

m334455 posted 6/19/2011 23:59 PM

I LOVE this book.

I would recommend it a thousand times over.

He also wrote an excellent book called Integrity.

KLinNoCA posted 6/20/2011 01:31 AM

Does he address the beaten down businessman who has nowhere to do and no resources to get there????

He shows examples of how people like this have changed their paths and gone a different direction after ending something that was going nowhere...and how fearful and scary it was to do that, but they did and life became better for it.

KLinNoCA posted 6/20/2011 01:33 AM

He also wrote an excellent book called Integrity.

I heard about this one and am thinking of buying it--I just got "Safe People" along with the workbook from Barnes and Noble and love it so far! It's going to help me stop repeating the same pattern and picking the wrong guys, I hope

Helen of Troy posted 6/20/2011 07:47 AM

Are these books religiously based?
http://www.cloudtownsend.com/

KLinNoCA posted 6/21/2011 14:19 PM

They talk about God, but no, for the most part Necessary Endings isn't very big on biblical scriptures to back up his theories.

The other books, Boundaries, ARE Christian based--as well as many of his other books.

[This message edited by KLinNoCA at 2:21 PM, June 21st (Tuesday)]

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