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boudicca posted 6/23/2011 10:25 AM

I saw this book at a friends house last week. She got divorced last year at age 47.

I have not read it, but she said it made her feel much more positive about her future and about getting a divorce in general.

I thought I would share the title since there are a lot of women going through divorce on this site.

The author is Ashton Applewhite.

[This message edited by boudicca at 10:27 AM, June 23rd (Thursday)]

uncertainone posted 6/23/2011 11:10 AM

I've read articles and studies that show that women tend to be happier and more emotionally healthy after divorce, not rush into another marriage, reconnect with family and friends and view it more as a fresh start then some men.

I know the breakups I've seen with my friends the man either had a plane on the tarmac or was in another relationship very quickly while my friends took their time and branched out either with school or hobbies.

I have no idea if that is true across the board or just reflective of my experience but I found it very interesting.

I know I'm doing much better than my ex. Much!

boudicca posted 6/23/2011 11:15 AM


I know the breakups I've seen with my friends the man either had a plane on the tarmac or was in another relationship very quickly while my friends took their time and branched out either with school or hobbies.

The same happens in my circle of friends. The women seem to really blossom and the men just trade in one relationship for another.

My friend who showed me this book changed careers, traveled to India, and is really connecting with her grown kids in a fantastic way. Her X is remarried, had a heart attack, never sees the kids, and has gained a ton of weight.

[This message edited by boudicca at 11:15 AM, June 23rd (Thursday)]

Skye posted 6/23/2011 12:18 PM

There was a segment on NPR recently about marriage and happiness.

Married men are happier than unmarried men.

Single women are happier than married women.

And single women with girlfriends are the happiest of all!

boudicca posted 6/23/2011 12:34 PM

Skye,

I agree with the NPR segment.

Having wonderful women in our lives makes everyone happier. Male or female.

boudicca posted 6/24/2011 13:09 PM

I had to come back to this thread today.

I have been flipping through the book and I want to let you know that if you are at all considering reconciliation, you probably SHOULD NOT read this book.

This book makes divorce seem so liberating and empowering, I can imagine if one were on the fence, it would quickly throw them from R to D.

If you feel in your heart you should D, but are worried about the consequences, it will be a very helpful read.

icbtih8 posted 6/24/2011 14:02 PM

Thanks for the recommendation

stretch13 posted 6/24/2011 14:14 PM

thank you for this one...this is the first title that's really interested me. the rest all seem like better reading for FT or someone who would stay in the fucked up family he made.

Red Sox Nation posted 6/28/2011 14:22 PM

So... the unhappiest men are the players, and the happiest women are the ones who only date the players?

Who be playing whom?

[This message edited by Red Sox Nation at 2:23 PM, June 28th (Tuesday)]

uncertainone posted 6/28/2011 14:40 PM

and the happiest women are the ones who only date the players?

Where do you see on this thread the mention of women dating anyone?

Red Sox Nation posted 6/28/2011 14:56 PM

All them years of schoolin' and refinin', completely wasted...

I think I'm gonna move out to Deadwood and stake me a claim.

capri posted 6/28/2011 16:43 PM

I absolutely believe that in my case I will be happier divorced. I'm already much happier now that I'm well on my way, doing new things, meeting new friends. But I don't blame that on marriage itself, rather on marrying someone who was controlling and emotionally and verbally abusive.

But a blanket statement that single women are happier than married women really saddens me. I would like to believe there are lots of really good guys out there who would make marriage a joy.

dreamlife posted 7/18/2011 17:43 PM

@ Capri...and I would like to believe that, too, but....

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