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stupidstupidme posted 7/21/2011 09:17 AM

I went to the bookstore last night to pick up Journey from Abandonment to Healing... I ended up with this other book - Don't Call That Man.

What I love about it is that it is just direct, and REAL. Not that some of those other self help things don't work - but I am just not disciplined enough to sit and close my eyes, and focus on what i hear... blah blah blah.

I need point blank direction and validation for my feelings, and this book is GREAT.

I highly recommend it for anyone in my situation - trying to keep NC - suffering from abandonment issues, and having a hard time.

click4it posted 7/21/2011 14:35 PM

Wish I had seen that book long ago.

stupidstupidme posted 7/21/2011 14:40 PM

In one chapter, she talks about what to do when you are angry - exercise, take a martial arts class, etc...

Then talks about ways to cope during depressed and sad moments... like talking to friends, write a letter to the person (don't give it to them), or some sort of ceremony to "end" the relationship in your mind.

Well there's some good questions at the end of the chapter, asking to list how the person has hurt you. what did they do to make you angry, etc...

Then is said what is a way you could sort of "celebrate" the end of the relationship with some type of ceremonial type thing... I wrote "burn all his shit in the lawn?"

click4it posted 7/21/2011 14:47 PM

burning all the shit on the lawn is something that sounds good to me!

mmrichet posted 7/22/2011 12:34 PM

Funny because I have the first book you mentioned on hold for me at the library..
Seems I might go on a search for the one you bought...
I need all the help I can get..

Blindbat posted 7/28/2011 02:25 AM

SSM, have you come across the Baggage Reclaim web site? Sounds like it would suit your current state of mind

stupidstupidme posted 7/28/2011 11:14 AM

HUH? no...

cass posted 7/28/2011 13:49 PM

I've only just heard of this site too. Good reading and great for self esteem.