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emotiona hell posted 10/6/2011 09:01 AM

Has anyone read these to books?
Are they similar in content?
I also meant to ask if these books are also similar to How to help your spouse heal after your Affair

[This message edited by emotiona hell at 10:17 AM, October 6th (Thursday)]

GraceisGood posted 10/6/2011 14:44 PM

I have read How Can I Forgive You and After the Affair, but not the How to Help Your spouse Heal book.

I got much from the How Can I Forgive you, not so much from After the Affair.


starstruck posted 10/24/2011 07:54 AM

I have read all three--each has its own nuggets that you can take away and use.
None can make it better but can help in understanding.

Newtwood posted 11/8/2011 11:15 AM

I've read all 3 also.

My rating is
1 How to Help Your Spouse

2 After the Affair

3 How Can I Forgive You

Each has it's own merits. Just pick through the books to find what helps you the most.

I skipped through How Can I Forgive You. It's just a personal thing for me-I couln't forgive. I live alongside (co-exist) instead; (the A) not my marriage or H that is. It is unforgivable for me.

I think if it moves you forward and if forgiving is something you need in order to heal the book may be helpful to you.

The How to Help Your Spouse Heal was really the most helpful because it basically lays out a How-to of what the WS can do to help the BS.

I also highly recommend Getting Past the Affair (Drs. D Snyder, D Baucom, and K Coop Gordon). If you are in IC/MC you can use this along with your therapist for understanding and moving in the direction you want to go. It's a lot to digest though (long and a bit clinical lots of thought provoking questions to consider). My H and I would read a chapter and then thoroughly discuss it until we felt we were edged through whatever topic it covered. You need to have a willing partner for this-it easy

Good luck and hope this helped.

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