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Louise2011 (original poster member #33383) posted at 1:49 AM on Wednesday, November 9th, 2011
It's available as a e-book (delivered instantly) for $7.99 form amazon, as well as paper copy for $10.99.
My WH loved this book, I made him read it in one night as requirement to being let back in the house after he broke NC a few weeks after "dday". ...and he HATES to read.. it was very "manual" like. Alot of these books seem to be written for women, this one is readable for a man.
Louise2011 (original poster member #33383) posted at 1:50 AM on Wednesday, November 9th, 2011
It's like anti-fog spray in a book! 
Crushed1 ( member #6449) posted at 5:47 AM on Wednesday, November 9th, 2011
I keep hearing about this book, it must be very good.
What's it like?
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"
~STRENGTH~PEACE~HOPE~FAITH
Laura28 ( member #28997) posted at 11:51 AM on Wednesday, November 9th, 2011
Brilliant
My FWH is not a reader.
In fact I don't think he has ever read a book from cover to cover.
I gave it to him with a highlighter and said "Read it".
He started one afternoon about 2pm. I kept saying you don't have to read it all today. He kept reading and highlighting and didn't stop until he was finished.
Highly recommend it.
Laura
Married 42yrs Me BW 68Yrs Him F?WH 70yrs OWzero 1988 EA?/PA? Gaslighted. Dday May 28 2010. OW1 1994(6mths PA, EA 16+ years). OW2 2002(8yrs PA). OW3 2009(1Yr PA). Others?? Status: Not Divorcing..but.."You can't unfuck 'em"
Louise2011 (original poster member #33383) posted at 7:21 PM on Wednesday, November 9th, 2011
Hi Crushed,
You can preview for free the table of contents and introduction & cover pages on Amazon.com
Basically it's written by a therapist/councellor who has specialized in infidelity for 20years or so. Based on the couples he has councelled he lays out the steps that WS's take who are successful in re-building their marriages. I especially liked how it explains that comparing an affair to a real realationship is a non-sensical comparison. Also that it is their duty to take on the role of healer.
silverhopes ( member #32753) posted at 12:00 AM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
+1
imho, the best book out there for the WS.
Aut viam inveniam aut faciam.
SisterMilkshake ( member #30024) posted at 12:59 AM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
My husband read it and liked it. However, he felt he had already basically got all the same information from the thread in the Wayward forum called "Things every WS needs to know..." I read the book also and agree with his assessment. It just elaborates more on the things the thread brings up. It probably adds some things, too, but can't think of any off hand.
I recommend the thread and the book!
BW (me) & FWH both over half a century; married several decades; children
d-day 3/10; LTA (7 years?)
"Oh, why do my actions have consequences?" ~ Homer Simpson
"She knew my one weakness: That I'm weak." ~ Homer Simpson
Jrazz ( member #31349) posted at 4:54 AM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
This book helped my FWH "get it" for sure. 
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." - Deeply Scared's mom
Diva0702 ( member #32309) posted at 10:07 AM on Saturday, October 13th, 2012
This is interesting. I got a copy for my FWH to read when he gets home in November. I purposely haven't read it because I don't want to be influenced to put my 'two pence worth' in!
Although we are well into R, my H sometimes needs some additional assistance to 'understand' some things, and from what everyone is saying here, this book will definately benefit his knowledge and understanding. Thankyou.
Me: BW 53
Him: FWH 47
4 wonderful grown children
2 beautiful grandchildren
Married 20 years
Together 23 years
Dday March 10 2010. 4 yr A.
Me: RGN(ret), N.Dip.,BA(Psych),MA (Psych),BA Music.
OW: 55 year old taxi driver
SecondHelping ( member #36796) posted at 1:12 AM on Sunday, October 14th, 2012
My WW read it and then I asked if it's worth me reading so she gave it to me to read.
Great book.
D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/2 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern
sj81 ( new member #36538) posted at 11:50 AM on Thursday, October 25th, 2012
My WH read this, He said it was really good and helpful.
It's one of the only books that he has bothered to finish. He usually starts with good intentions then looses interest.
Sissi12 ( new member #37163) posted at 11:56 PM on Friday, November 2nd, 2012
How much research and self-help books is your WS doing/reading? Why are we the ones that need to suggest (fix) things?
BS
SecondHelping ( member #36796) posted at 2:30 AM on Saturday, November 3rd, 2012
How much research and self-help books is your WS doing/reading? Why are we the ones that need to suggest (fix) things?
I can't get my WW to read anything. She read this book and one chapter from another book. It pisses me off that I am trying to learn all I can and she isn't lifting a finger. She is remorseful and patient and we are in HB, but other than that, nada...
Her IC is so spaced apart it's not doing anything.
[This message edited by SecondHelping at 8:30 PM, November 2nd (Friday)]
D-Day 1: Feb 1990
D-Day 2: 3 Sep 2012 (3 month EA/2 week PA)
BS 49, fWW 43 (Amibroken)
OP- Police Chief (Age 37)
M 25 Yrs, 3 Kids (17, 14, 11)
I initated the relationship at the Railway Tavern, she tried to end it at Scrap Tavern
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