OK so I am reading this now based on this thread.
It has a solid message and she is really engaging.
But I'm a little bothered by her acceptance of infidelity and betrayal.
I mean she seems to accept infidelity--though not a good thing--as a possible result of being in an unhappy relationship.
There is a LOT of acceptance in this book--probably more than I am capable of.
I mean ideally we could just say, "hey, I'm not happy, I'm walking away" and everyone would end up better off.
But what about commitment?
I'm not done with the book. But it almost seems like her vision of "true" love is something that just comes at the right time as long as you're engaged in self-love.
But once you are invested in a relationship should you just up and leave when you don't feel happy?
I mean isn't the meaning of commitment that you are willing to battle through those times and at least try to make it work?
I don't know maybe I haven't gotten to her real sense of commitment yet. These are just first impressions.
There is a lot of good in the book. Maybe I don't have the level of self-love necessary to lay down the bitterness that I feel or would feel if betrayed or abandoned.
Someone I love once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift. --Mary Oliver