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need2moveon posted 3/26/2012 14:43 PM

Can anyone recommend a good book on maintaining appropriate boundaries? Thanks so much!

authenticnow posted 3/31/2012 05:20 AM

Shirley Glass, Not Just Friends.

Taurusinpain posted 3/31/2012 08:57 AM

Are you talking about A related boundaries or boundaries in general every day life with everyone?

Fighting2Survive posted 3/31/2012 10:24 AM

Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust & Restoring Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass, PhD

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

The Dance of Intimacy: A Woman's Guide to Courageous Acts of Change in Key Relationships by Harriet Lerner, PhD

Codependent No More by Melodie Beattie

Boundaries in Marriage: Understanding the Choices that Make or Break Loving Relationships by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

All of these address boundaries even though some of them never use the word specifically.

hardlessons posted 4/2/2012 19:22 PM

The first book I read after D Day was

Emotional Infidelity: How to Affair-Proof Your Marriage and 10 Other Secrets to a Great Relationship by Gary Neuman

And it was a mind blower for me, this should be required reading for all.

silverhopes posted 5/8/2013 14:29 PM

Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life by Drs. Henry Cloud and John Townsend

This book is amazing. I haven't read all of it (been trying to slowly for months) but there is a strong sense of reaching even farther back from now into FOO issues. It's such a valuable book.

So far the most helpful concept has been when people say no to the good or healthy and yes to the bad or unhealthy: reverse boundaries. What a wonderful book.