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I cant believe how and why this is so unfair, why do they go back to thieir old life, she was single at the time, is now in a relationship and is happy and our relationship is so damaged, so not fair.

It will come. You may not see it, but how can someone so messed up not mess their own relationships up. I have the same thoughts. I am Ding my WH and she is still with her BH. My kids suffer while she doesn't. But from what I have found out, her life is messed up and I pity her.

Her "karma" is just being herself... a home wrecking whore who sleeps with married men. I'd hate to be her and that fucked up in the head.

Just because she appears happy and all together does not mean she is.

I have struggled with this as well, and coincidentally had a conversation with my WH a few days ago about this. The thing about karma is that we may never see it happen. All we can do is trust. Focus on yourself and your own karma. Focus on being good and doing good deeds. Karma has a lot to do and a long list of people to get to. Eventually karma will reach this person- and if it doesn't in this life, rest assured it will in the next.

I guess this is where we get to learn how to let go, for real.

I wouldn't want to be OW, she'll never be able to trust anyone because she knows exactly what deceit and dishonestly looks like and feels like.

Most likely (unless she's settling in for a whole lifetime of whoring around, she's so young after all) she'll often have nagging doubts about her partner, because she knows the other side.

Whatever I would wish upon her, it's not going to happen. So I try not to obsess.