I could term myself an SA, back in the day before there was the term. I'm of the flower child generation & we thought we'd invented the opening of "free love". But in spite of our generation's turnabout on sexuality with no negative responses or judgments from others within our generation, I realized negative consequences within my own self & that I had a problem.
Not a surprise this had consequences in who I chose for my first marriage & possibly my second. I've read extensively on the subject because, although I did confront myself & did the work..like addicts choose addicts..the negative consequences also came out in the men I chose.
So if you ever want to talk frankly or have ??'s, feel free to PM me, you'll find no judgment from me..maybe only warnings on how you might continue to hurt yourself.