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ajsmom (original poster member #17460) posted at 7:20 PM on Monday, April 23rd, 2012
This book came up quite a bit in my pastor's sermon this past Sunday.
Anyone read it?
Some of the things discussed were very interesting.
TIA,
AJ's MOM
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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One AMAZING DS - 34
ajsmom (original poster member #17460) posted at 7:20 PM on Monday, April 23rd, 2012
Whoops...authored by Gary Smalley
Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.
"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
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Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
One AMAZING DS - 34
traicionada ( member #10310) posted at 8:02 PM on Monday, April 23rd, 2012
Nope but I like the title enough to go for it 
I'm book floozie like that 
Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...
wantreallove ( member #37534) posted at 4:17 PM on Tuesday, January 22nd, 2013
Curious what your take on this book was? My WH just heard about it and said it was recommended in his men's group at our church. Was it good?
Me,BS 42 WH (masame5) 44 Married 22 yrs, 8 kids D-day 10/9/12 (caught him through fb chat)
D-day #2 11/19/12 thru 11/21/12 (found out about all the rest of the A's.) 8 AP. D-day #3 Oct 18, 2023 it's happening again... 3 AP's plus so many attempts
rachelc ( member #30314) posted at 9:29 PM on Tuesday, January 22nd, 2013
I'm currently reading it and I've had a Eureka moment based on something he said in the book. We keep having the same fights because it's pushing our core button issues. For women, its most likely disconnectedness. For men, it's either helplessness or fear of someone controlling them.
For me: I fear I'm not my husband's priority and this has been the BULK of what I bring to the table when we fight. Anyone remember how I was so hurt that he took so long to sell his affair car? yep, I wasn't the priority, nor was I during his affairs or heck, even when the kids were growing up, he focused on his career. Now why I need to be someone's priority, that's another issue. But, I can tell him this and perhaps he can see why I do what I do.
Additionally, this book explains how was have to own our part of the problem. It also reiterates how you have control of your reactions to what happens to you. Not sure about this but that's what he says.
I suspect this all is based on the drama triangle... Immensely readable...
NoTriangles ( member #35985) posted at 8:38 PM on Tuesday, February 19th, 2013
Thanks rachelc. I had just heard of this book also so I was glad to find this thread.
Me: Finding my SunlightHim: Traitor in my FoxholeLet go or get dragged.
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