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User Topic: been a while, finally know whats going on
onehurtmama
♀ 35231
Member # 35231
Default  Posted: 9:58 PM, April 25th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have struggled with posting this because, well, I feel I am the only one in my situation. I know there is a board for dealing with pregnancy, std's, so on and so fourth. Well, I found out my husband had been running...escorts. He finally came clean. He calls it managing, he is a pimp. No way to sugar coat it. I was at first beyond pissed, hurt and angry for doing what he was doing. The man has a WONDERFUL job and I'm able to stay at home with my DD. I'm still kind of at a loss for words, but ever since he came out of his "fog" and admitted everything, it has been good. No secrets, no hidden texts, no private phone calls, not even TT, just all honesty.

I am half ass relieved, and really embarrassed. I NEVER thought I'd be sitting here writing this post. No one in my family knows, nor my friends except 1. Im so ashamed.

I can't expect anyone to relate to me, because, lets face it, how many women HONESTLY deal with what I'm dealing with?

Anyways, for anyone who remembered me I just wanted to post and let everyone know I'm doing ok, considering....


Me 21 BS
Him 29 WH
3 years together DDay 3/30/12
DD-2
gettingyouskinny.webs.com <3

Posts: 33 | Registered: Apr 2012
Fractured.Us
♀ 35085
Member # 35085
Default  Posted: 10:10 PM, April 25th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((onehurtmama)))


Married 21

This was not how it was supposed to end.


Posts: 338 | Registered: Mar 2012 | From: USA
Magda08
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Default  Posted: 10:13 PM, April 25th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so sorry for what you are going through. This is a shock for you, please take good care of yourself.

Posts: 44 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: US
onehurtmama
♀ 35231
Member # 35231
Default  Posted: 10:41 PM, April 25th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks guys, Im hanging in there. I was A LOT worse off when I didn't know what was going, or where his time was being spent. Not that this is a HUGE relief, but I'm no longer questioning his every move.

I'm glad I have you guys because no one else understands, but how can anyone fully understand?

On a happy note, I went out today and starting preparing for my DD's 2nd birthday which gave me a good outlet today to get my mind off of things.


Me 21 BS
Him 29 WH
3 years together DDay 3/30/12
DD-2
gettingyouskinny.webs.com <3

Posts: 33 | Registered: Apr 2012
I think I can
♀ 17756
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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wait--he IS a pimp, or he WAS a pimp?


I'm not the winner, I'm the prize.

Posts: 8845 | Registered: Jan 2008
wifehad5
♂ 15162
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Default  Posted: 8:53 AM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

(((onehurtmama)))

Has he stopped "managing"?


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 37630 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
onehurtmama
♀ 35231
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Default  Posted: 12:25 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Unfortunately, the answer, still IS. Im in no position to pack up and go. Im a SAHM. I asked to him to stop for the sake of our child, but I am dealing with this the best way I know how. I have talked to the girls, and in constant contact with him.

We use to be so broke when I was pregnant that he was stealing food so I could eat. I remember him going days without eating, because it was only enough for me. And I guess, he is addicted to the money it brings and he "hoards" it, which stems from past issues.

I honestly just dont know what the F*** do to. Im trying to put back money here and there without him knowing, just in case.

I want to pull my freaking hair out, but im focusing on my business and my daughter to stay positive.


Me 21 BS
Him 29 WH
3 years together DDay 3/30/12
DD-2
gettingyouskinny.webs.com <3

Posts: 33 | Registered: Apr 2012
Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 1:04 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Mouth open. Flies everywhere.

Sweety, you are 21 years old and now you are complicit in his illegal activity. Stop. Now.


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6653 | Registered: Jan 2011
Kelany
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Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

When his ring gets busted, and it will, what will you do then????


BS - Me
SA/FWH Him
DDay 1 - Jul 11
DDay 2 - Jul 12
R Dec 12

Former 80s Icon wishful thinking


Posts: 2031 | Registered: Feb 2012
trustagain
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Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have talked to the girls, and in constant contact with him.

Gentle 2x4 - bad move. You are now involved and when he goes down you will go down with him.

Please look at all your options. You are young and have your entire life ahead of you. What he is doing is illegal and you shouldn't be involved in anyway especially since you have a daughter to take care of. Think of her....


WH - 48
BS (me) - 50
Son - 25
Son - 17
Dday #1 - 10/31/07
Dday #2 - 12/23/07
Dday #1,000,000 - 12/23/09 - found out EA was PA
Reconciling or at least trying. We have reconciled through the A, but he still doesn't get it when it comes to p

Posts: 4472 | Registered: Nov 2007
GrievingMommy
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Default  Posted: 3:01 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow, what a situation. I feel for you!!

I echo what's been said. You now know of his activity and have been in contact with the women, and are now, in the eyes of the law, probably considered to be a pimp (or at least an accessory) as well. Please get out now. I know it has to be scary about leaving/getting out of the situation, but what will happen to your daughter when this falls apart and you both are arrested?

The money isn't worth it!!

[This message edited by GrievingMommy at 3:02 PM, April 26th (Thursday)]


Me - Now 36 y/o
WXH: Now 45 y/o and 18+ hrs away -NPD asshole now onto wife #3.
My sweeties: 5 yr old B/G twins. 90% custody (or more) since 14 months old.
D-Day 4/4/10 PA('s?) & EA's - D'd 7/11

Posts: 1691 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Upper Midwest
ugachicky
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Default  Posted: 3:09 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Please think about this. You are setting yourself up for big issues if or rather when he gets caught. Please maybe seek family to stay and help you out.

Posts: 41 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Georgia
KeepCalm_CarryOn
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Default  Posted: 3:20 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Is the money worth your soul? And losing your daughter?

What about when a "rival" pimp shoots up your home? Or beats up your husband? Or kidnaps your child?

What about if he gets caught and has to pay restitution? Where will that money come from? If he goes to jail? If you get arrested as an accessory? What will happen to your daughter?

I know others have been gentle, and you are in one heck of a situation, I cannot imagine the pain you are in, but you must, above all else, protect your daughter and yourself. This is a very, very dangerous situation. You are so young. You have a whole life ahead of you. You deserve more.

Do you have family you could stay with? A friend?


You are not dealing with rational people or situations. Normal thought processes won't work...story of my life.

Me- BW, 30
Him- fWh, 36
Mostly R'd, minus a few scars...bought a house and got a puppy...And baby makes 3! She arrived August 2013


Posts: 2043 | Registered: Sep 2011
annb
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Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I am so sorry you are dealing with this, but keep in mind, if he goes down, you are going with him.

What will happen to your DD?

I vote for getting out for now....at least until he can secure a LEGAL job to provide for you and your DD.

Hugs.


Posts: 7632 | Registered: Jan 2009 | From: Northeast
inca
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Default  Posted: 10:24 PM, April 26th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

This is a horrible situation and you need to get out of it now. Your life and your DD's life depend on it.

If I understand your relief, you learne that he is a pimp not having an A? And to assure yourself that that is the case you are in contact with these women? But by being in contact, you are part of this criminal behavior and if anyone gets wind of it, you will go down. Your DD could be taken from you and put in CPS to exert pressure on you or while you serve time. This will NOT end well. Get out now!


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