[This message edited by wolf_heart at 11:06 PM, April 26th (Thursday)]
I know how you're feeling. And he probably does, too. I think, for now, you should give him the benefit of the doubt. I had a lot of the same feelings, and he was in the middle of a meeting, or driving, he couldn't respond at those times. He loves you. He does. Give it time.
It sucks being a betrayed spouse. I never thought anything could suck this badly. Things will surely get better.
Am I being unreasonable in my thinking?
HE created your insecurities, he must alleviate them.
I am not quite getting it...Why can't he call when you need to talk? Why can't he text? Why must you wait to get a much deserved answer?
Have you told him how you feel?
You seem to expect so much of yourself when really, you need to expect so much more from your WH.
The truth hurts, but I have never seen it cause the pain that lies do.
Some days he does and I'm pathetically grateful - I try not to show this though, and just text a friendly/ funny message back. But the days he forgets or (probably, to be fair) is genuinely too busy? I look at my phone constantly and convince myself he's somewhere he shouldn't be. And I fell unloved, unwanted - you may or may not be thinking unreasonably wolf_heart, but you're certainly not alone.
I think I have finally got through to my H that "If I do it for you you'll just think I feel guilty because I did it for her and that's the only reason I'm doing it" is crap. My response was: "Try it and see. OK, if I respond by accusing you of that, you've proved your point and I'll accept it. If not, please accept the request I'm making and see that I need this level of reassurance at the moment."
But he made me insecure and caused me not to trust him through his behaviour.
[This message edited by Minerva at 10:11 AM, April 27th (Friday)]
I feel the same way or I DID feel the same way before. I am now trying to get STBXH out of my head as he certainly does not deserve to be in my thoughts!!!