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User Topic: Has anyone read the book
GreenEyeGirl
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Question  Posted: 12:25 PM, August 31st (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Hold Me Tight by Dr. Sue Johnson? Waste of time or worth it?


BW=45; WH=46 We have 2 kids DD/DS.
DDay 6-13-12 Married 23 years
He cheated on our marriage during year 14. Eight yrs after the A began is when I found out.
Going to try to reconcile, my heart is BROKEN

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traicionada
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, September 12th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

It depends what kind of reader you're. If you're a type A personality, this might not be the book for you.


Real love is a CHOICE, NOT a feeling...

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trumanshow
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Default  Posted: 4:19 PM, September 12th (Wednesday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Actually, I bought the book. Our MC (who was excellent) trained under her in California

Unfortunately, before I could make use of it I found out we were in false R


Your ex wanting to be friends is like asking a kidnapper to stay in touch when they let you go.

The type of fierce loyalty that I possess made me incapable of comprehending the level of disloyalty that he possessed


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Skye
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Default  Posted: 8:29 AM, September 13th (Thursday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I thought it an excellent book for a marriage that was broken. My marriage was fine. My husband was broken. It was not for us, but I could see where it was very good for partners who couldn't communicate.

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GreenEyeGirl
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Default  Posted: 4:30 PM, September 24th (Monday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I bought it at the request of the marriage counselor. I read it, but I just think it didn't really apply to us. It is more for people that seem to have underlying issues that were brought to the marriage that enabled an affair....maybe I'm just not internalizing it correctly???


BW=45; WH=46 We have 2 kids DD/DS.
DDay 6-13-12 Married 23 years
He cheated on our marriage during year 14. Eight yrs after the A began is when I found out.
Going to try to reconcile, my heart is BROKEN

Posts: 186 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: USA
NoTriangles
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Default  Posted: 5:49 PM, September 28th (Friday), 2012View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I personally really liked this book. I found the attachment theory exploration very interesting and relevant.

However, it definitely has the most value for a couple working together on R. I read it last summer during what turned out to be False R. I am more educated and informed but he never so much as read one sentence of anything to heal us.

If you are not in R, then the case studies (spouses 'finally getting it' (and not necessarily all infidelity-related)) might just make you bummed, but I think the overall tenets of the psychology of relationships have a lot of merit.


Me: Finding my Sunlight
Him: Traitor in my Foxhole
Let go or get dragged.

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