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tesla (original poster member #34697) posted at 11:53 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2012
Some of you read my thread about stbx wanting the husky (we have a husky and a malamute). I had my brother drop the husky off at the boarders today. I didn't want to chance coming home after work and him showing up here with just me between him and the husky. I left the malamute home because stbx has never liked the malamute.
I got a VM while I was at work...he was standing at my back door and if I didn't show up and let him in I would be coming home to a broken lock and door.
(I had sent our email exchange from earlier in the day to my L to ask her advice on it...obviously after I got his VM, I called her)
While I'm on the phone with L, text comes from stbx:
"You're gonna need a new lock for the house, probably a door too...took Mosley, will exchange for Lie-Lie."
So obviously I tell L this and she says she's going to get on the phone with his lawyer...she'll get back to me right away.
40 minutes later this text from stbx:
"Installed new lock, key is in the knob. Repaired door."
He broke into my home and stole. The fucker kicked my door in and stole Mosley.
Jesus fucking christ....He blew off the settlement meeting monday and today he's breaking down my door.
I didn't come home until my brother could be here (oh and I went to pick up Lie-Lie from the boarders). I call the police deptartment to file a report about the damage. My L, after talking to his L, sent his L an email stating that she expected stbx to pay for the damages. yeah, he said he fixed the door...you should see this gerry-rigged piece of crap...that asshat is buying me a new door....and obviously a new lock because why the hell would i keep the cheap ass knob and lock that he bought...because where is the other fucking key??!!
I feel so violated and vulnerable. What's to stop him from doing this at 2 a.m. when I'm here sleeping because he decides that he wants something?
FUCK. THAT. GUY.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
LadyQ ( member #32847) posted at 11:56 PM on Friday, September 28th, 2012
Time for a fire arm or taser!
Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...
confused615 ( member #30826) posted at 12:01 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Call the police and have him arrested..he broke into your house and he stole something. He admitted it in the texts.
Fuck.That.
BS(me)44
FWH 48
4 kids
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.
jo2love ( member #31528) posted at 12:01 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
(((tesla)))
I'm sorry you are going through this. Are the police able to get Mosley back? Were you able to press charges?
Loyalty2Liberty ( member #36714) posted at 12:05 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
He... broke your door to essentially burglarize your house dognap your dog and hold it hostage...
Wow. Did not see that coming.
Fuck. That. Guy.
[This message edited by Loyalty2Liberty at 6:06 PM, September 28th (Friday)]
betrayedfriend ( member #19785) posted at 12:07 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
OMG! time to get a restraining order as well, he's obviously off his rocker, next time make sure someone is with you or you board both dogs, What the Hell was he thinking?!
I originally joined SI as a way to help my best friends find ways of coping with infidelity, but now infidelity has touched my family much closer to home.
hopingforhappy ( member #29288) posted at 12:15 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
You might want to consider a home alarm system, like ADT or similar. Anything with a loud siren that will go off if he tries to break in again.
Me--BW (57)
Him--FWH (54)--5yr. LTA--OW probably BPD
Married 21 years
DS-19, DD-16
Reconciling--but boy is it hard!
NoTriangles ( member #35985) posted at 12:16 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
NFW!! Holy Shit! I want to bash his face in!!
I say, gloves off.
I would definitely want to be compensated for a new lock properly installed by a locksmith where you have all the keys.
I would also press charges for breaking and entering if possible. It is demonstrable that this is not his residence anymore, yes?
Also, I would absolutely pursue a restraining order at this point. Breaking into your house?!?! AYFKM?? Maybe even ask your L if you can negotiate that he pay for $X towards a security system for you as part of the settlement.
I'm so sorry he is such a complete psycho asshole. Can your brother stay with you tonight?
Where/how are the pups?
((( Tesla )))
Me: Finding my SunlightHim: Traitor in my FoxholeLet go or get dragged.
macakipa ( member #33735) posted at 12:21 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
OMG tesla!!!
Start doing what I do; Get a taser. Carry it around with you at all times. Sleep with it by your pillow.
File a police report and get a restraining order.
Does he still have Mosley?!
FTG
M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."
Holly-Isis ( member #13447) posted at 12:23 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
I'm worried about what this means for Teslet. I mean, if he's going to do crazy sh!t like this to control you when it comes to a dog, what will he do with your son? Just decide to take him?
I hope between the settlement meeting and this you will have tons of leverage.
"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*
Nature_Girl ( member #32554) posted at 12:41 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
1 - I would file a police report & see if you can have him arrested. At the very least they can get your dog back.
2 - I would petition for a restraining order.
3 - I would be at Home Depot tonight getting those door alarm thingy's which emit an ear-piercing blast if the door is opened without disarming the alarm (brand name Doberman or something like that).
4 - I would have a professional install a new SECURITY door tomorrow with new locks. Agree the expedite/weekend charge is fine with you. Make STBX pay for THAT m-f'er!
Me = BS
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - DIVORCED!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJgjyDFfJuU
btrayedbyhim ( member #26941) posted at 12:56 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
What Nature_Girl Said.
A.S.A.P.
((tesla))
As of Dec 2009:
Me: BS46
Him: FWH39 - NPD
Married: 20+ years
Kids: 3
D-Day: 9-28-09
Spent 4 yrs trying. He blew it.
Arrested for DV: 9-6-13
Fuck Him
realitybites ( member #6908) posted at 1:01 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Crazy. Just crazy.
His lawyer may dump him now...just showed how unstable he is.
So sorry you had your dog taken...he does not even like that dog?!
He is losing it. If you can hang in there without him doing more damage I think he just tipped his rocker.
Stop expecting loyalty from people who cannot even give you honesty.
He stopped being my husband the first time he cheated. It took me awhile to understand that I was no longer his wife.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 1:08 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
OMG, Tesla! Definitely get this on the record with the police.
That Guy is unstable. That Guy is showing his colors. Fuck That Guy. Protect yourself.
((((tesla, teslet, and puppies))))
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
Bebba1171 ( member #33857) posted at 1:31 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
What is with this guy???
What an awful thing to do!
I just despise him for what he has done and continues to do!
Divorced by Interlocutory decree in May 2012. WW had an affair with a 66 yo doctor she worked for.
D-Day Sept 16. 2011.
BH- 54Me) / XWW 52
Two great kids that don't deserve this!
sammie ( member #7785) posted at 1:33 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
RESTRAINING. ORDER.
He is losing control and wants to regain it at any cost.
Do not underestimate him.
What a fucking PIG. (apologies to all the piggies)
Hugs.
If someone loves you, it should feel like they love you.
Never give more of yourself than you are getting back.
"The world breaks everyone and afterward many are strong at the broken places." ~Ernest Hemingway
Williesmom ( member #22870) posted at 1:54 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
He gets today's jagoff award.
((tesla))
He's just trying to get you off your game - stay the course. Confirmation that you're doing the right thing - as if you needed it.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
tryingagain74 ( member #33698) posted at 2:08 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Geez, tesla. I'm so sorry to read this. Is there any way you could get a restraining order? He's starting to sound dangerous to me, and he's basically ransoming one dog for another.
FTG. (((tesla)))
FBS; now happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
40andFab ( new member #36767) posted at 3:16 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Time to get the police involved, for sure! Arrest or at least a restraining order. That is scary stuff!!!
(((tesla)))
Me - BXW
Him -WXH
Previous LTPA, thought we had reconciled
After 18 months discovered EA/text relationship.
Status: Happily divorced
jjsr ( member #34353) posted at 3:25 AM on Saturday, September 29th, 2012
Burn his ass. Please stay safe
Me: BS
Him: WS
Married since 1985
Parents to 2 adult sons and 3 of the cutest cats you have ever seen
D-day 8/6/11 Truth about ONS and 9/21/11 Truth about EA and 10/28/15 NEW dday.
Just surviving.
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