I got this book a couple months ago and went through it lightly, didn't read it intently, but liked that there were exercises, liked that it was written by therapists in a structured format of the steps they used in MC with couples. I am ordering a new book this week and realized I still had this one unread in my Kindle app so started reading it thoroughly tonight, and I'd say it's the best thing I've read so far that really focuses on BOTH sides of the affair. I definitely recommend it as a mad hatter. I find myself bouncing back and forth between the roles as I read. The first chapter is split in half, the first half talking to the BS and the second half talking to the WS. The book was designed to be worked together as a couple but also gives the variations necessary to help one work through it on their own if their partner is unwilling.
Getting Past the Affair
Snyder, Douglas K. (2007-01-06). Guilford Press. Kindle Edition.