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isthis4real posted 1/25/2013 12:33 PM

Can anyone please recommend a good book(s) about being codependent and gives good advice on how not to be?

rachelc posted 1/25/2013 14:26 PM

Melody Beattie has a new codependent book out titled - the New Co-Dependent No More.

I like The Secret of Letting Go too.

Nature_Girl posted 1/26/2013 20:07 PM

Codependent No More
The New Codependent
both by Melody Beattie

Boundaires
by Cloud & Townsend

ETA: Codependency has deep roots into childhood. If you have the ability to get some IC and explore your FOO, you will have better luck at shedding codependency.

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 8:09 PM, January 26th (Saturday)]

seekingright2013 posted 2/16/2013 08:49 AM

I second the motion of anything by Melody Beattie.

My personal favorite is "Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing and Hoping He'd Change" by Robin Norwood.

This book has helped me SO much. My exWSO was not an addict but was passive-aggressive. Like any book (or forum), take what helps and leave the rest. I found about 75-80% applied to me and my situation.

What I found the most helpful was the chapter on how to recover !! Excellent. Step-by-step instructions.

In a nutshell: focus on YOU. YOU can't change anyone else. Put all the energy that you have been throwing away on someone else, on an unhealthy relationship, back into YOU.

Actually kind of reminds me of the 180!

Hope this helps. Bibliotherapy has really helped me. And IC too.

cp1962 posted 2/28/2013 12:54 PM

I am just beginning IC (only 2 sessions so far) and my therapist recommended Co-dependent No More. It is amazing how much I can identify. I pull all my energy into

cp1962 posted 2/28/2013 12:54 PM

I am just beginning IC (only 2 sessions so far) and my therapist recommended Co-dependent No More. It is amazing how I can identify.

[This message edited by cp1962 at 12:56 PM, February 28th (Thursday)]

authenticnow posted 4/7/2013 06:24 AM

bumping for Lauren

summerain posted 4/8/2013 00:21 AM

Thanks authenticnow

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