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0115 posted 1/25/2013 17:28 PM

Has anyone seen it really hard to watch?

LonelyHusband posted 1/25/2013 18:35 PM

certainly wouldn't advise it for new BSs

0115 posted 1/25/2013 21:37 PM

Thanks lonely!

persevere posted 1/25/2013 21:47 PM

I'm two years out from DDay so I got thru it but it did hit me a bit. I think it caused me to view Bradley Coopers perspective differently than another might have.
Great movie.

sad12008 posted 1/25/2013 23:10 PM

I haven't seen it, but want to. Didn't know infidelity was involved (assuming it is from your post), but I know it involves BPD which definitely strikes very close to home. I've heard about it from that angle from others who have BP spouses.

Kinda glad for the heads up that it might be triggery for a BS...or fBS.

MissMovingOn posted 1/25/2013 23:28 PM

I've read that they handle the sex addiction aspect of Jennifer Lawrence's character really well.

Charwheeze posted 1/25/2013 23:54 PM

I saw it about a week ago. The infidelity part made me pretty uncomfortable, but what really sets me off is when two people are in love in a TV show or movie. That's when it hurts the most. The loneliness becomes overwhelming.

0115 posted 1/25/2013 23:55 PM

Well we ended up not seeing it tonight...went home and watched Sandlot with the kids instead.

fWH is having a hard time right now so I didn't think it would help.

I might have to rent it when it comes out though

Thanks for the heads up!

MrsDoubtfire posted 1/26/2013 04:23 AM

It's a really good film and is very sensitively portrayed. I didn't trigger watching it.

Daisy312 posted 1/26/2013 10:05 AM

It was tough for me! I didn't know what it was about and there were parts that just ripped at my heart! I'm 9 months past Dday, but still really struggling.

Sad in AZ posted 1/26/2013 11:35 AM

I saw it yesterday. If you trigger easily or are new to infidelity, it will hit you like a ton of bricks, mostly because of the attitude of the characters not affected by the infidelity. The mental health aspects of the movie are difficult; I didn't think I would like it when it was in progress, but by the end I was thrilled. I loved the movie.

[This message edited by Sad in AZ at 11:36 AM, January 26th (Saturday)]

mchercheur posted 5/26/2013 21:57 PM

Warning: Spoiler alert for anyone who didn't see it yet,
& trigger alert for new BSs

Just saw this movie tonight.
Just a few thoughts about it. Yes, it gives you a view into the world of BPD & sex addiction. But what hit me the most is how the BH was trying to "nice" the WW back---by losing weight, reading books,controlling his emotions, etc.
IOW, he blamed himself for her cheating on him, that she did it because of what he was lacking/his faults---& thought he could win her back if he could become better in those areas.
In the movie nobody seemed to acknowledge what a huge trauma her infidelity was.
Also, a good warning to any BS who seriously contemplates revenge on the OP.

scangel3 posted 5/26/2013 22:22 PM

Really wanted to see this movie, didn't know it had infidelity in it. And considering I was triggering from hearing comedians joke about infidelity a few weeks ago, maybe this isn't a movie I should watch right now. Guess another movie to put on the for later list

rcantbleveit posted 5/26/2013 22:36 PM

I thought it was a great movie. It showed a realistic view of how some come apart after discovering infidelity & although they used BPD as his diagnosis, I've seen several people go through exactly the same emotions without that diagnosis.

I didn't see the woman in it as a sex addict. I saw her actions as another way of dealing with the loss of her husband. She felt tremendous guilt over his death. She felt alone & lonely so she used sex with others to deal with her negative emotions.

In the end, it was uplifting to see that regardless of what we go through & are dealing with, we somehow survive and can find love again.

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