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Bikingguy posted 1/28/2013 10:54 AM

Most of the book listed are for dealing with infidelity and we are reading ďnot, just friendsĒ. However I also want to work on me. While I do not consider myself to be a terrible person, I cannot say I am the person I want to be.

One of my biggest issues is my lack of empathy or selfishness. And that has impacted many of my relationships. It lead to us having a terrible M. While I donít expect my heart to grow 3 sizes I do wish to learn to care about others. I also hold back too much, not only in sharing my feelings but also in just living life. I would be fine sitting on the coach watching TV with the wife and kids every night. I donít enjoy socializing with other people I donít know. I donít even like large gatherings with family and friends. While not as bad as Sheldon on Big Bang Theory, somewhat similar. So any good book suggestions would be great. I will admit just writing these things down has already helped, however I am hoping some good reading will provide me with tools to help me live the life I want.

atsenaotie posted 1/28/2013 11:32 AM

I do wish to learn to care about others.

Chapman's 5 Love Languages was an epiphany for FWW and I. Short and easy to read book, but taught us a lot about expressing love to others.

rachelc posted 1/28/2013 12:19 PM

Do you have any FOO issues? If so, it might be wise to start there... for instance, if abandonment or trauma was a part of your childhood.

It sounds to me like you would like to live a life of more compassion and humility. If so, use those as key words on Amazon...

I really liked Living the Truth by Albom.. I found it, ironically, the day after I told my husband the truth..
I also like the 4 Agreements by Ruiz....

[This message edited by rachelc at 12:20 PM, January 28th (Monday)]

looking forward posted 1/28/2013 12:51 PM

Living the Truth by Keith Ablow, MD (ISBN 0-316-01782-5) ~ Dr. Keith Ablow, bestselling author and host of a new daily one-hour daytime-TV talk show, presents his first self-help book. Based on more than 20 years of clinical experience and highlighting stories from his own practice, Ablow shows how ignoring or burying painful memories and experiences can negatively affect every aspect of our lives, and he presents strategies to help the reader transform the pain of the past into the power of the future. In a world where short-term talk therapy and medication are the latest trends to "fixing" an unhappy life, Ablow's message is controversial. But though examining the past can be daunting, LIVING THE TRUTH is as comforting and rewarding as it is transformative. And through Ablow's fine storytelling skills, empathetic voice, and straight-up advice, the experience of reading this extraordinary book becomes the first step to living a truly authentic life.

This book has lots of great Journal exercises, too.

Forgiveness ~ How To Make Peace With Your Past And Get On With Your Life by Dr. Sidney B. Simon and Suzanne Simon (ISBN 0-446-39259-6) ~ Based on their
popular "Forgiveness" seminar, the author of Getting Unstuck and his wife designed to help readers let go of their pain and get on with their lives.

Rossell posted 1/28/2013 21:18 PM

I always love to read Wayne Dyer. He has lots of books out there. Start with Your Erroneous Zones. It is a good book and is about finding the truth in yourself.

Cannaman posted 3/2/2013 08:52 AM

The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.

This book changed my life!

Williesmom posted 3/2/2013 14:29 PM

My brother swears by the journey from abandonment to healing.

AFrayedKnot posted 3/2/2013 15:38 PM

A couple of my favorites are:

The Tao of Pooh by Ben Hoff

Deep and Simple by Bo Lozoff

Cannaman posted 3/3/2013 16:53 PM

I'll second The Tao of Pooh! Also along those lines "Relax, You're Already Home" by Raymond Barnett

sadone29 posted 3/22/2013 11:07 AM

I just started When Things Fall Apart by Pema Chodron.

She became a Buddhist nun after her husband left her for another woman. She understands the pain, but recognized that it was the time to look inward.

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