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lostnlove68 (original poster member #36766) posted at 6:29 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2013
Has anyone read the book called The Normal Bar and did it help with recovery ? Any imput would be helpful. We are doing well in recovery and want to learn more about keeping our relationship interesting.
Thanks
ME:BS, HIM:WH
No kids
Married 12 years
Been together 29 years
Me 44
Him 45
DD Aug. 21 2012 the day after we stared to build a new house in a new country.
PippaPeach6 ( member #37523) posted at 6:51 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2013
I'm reading this now, about a third of the way through. It is very thoughtful and interesting, the kind I read a bit of and then reflect on. It has a lot of statistics from around the world which are interesting, and a lot of interesting quotes.
For keeping things "interesting," Kiss Me Like You Mean It by Dr. David Clarke was excellent (and LOL funny). He has 2X4s for both men and women. DH is not a big reader but he really liked this book.
Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Reconciled
Honey Badger don't care. - Randall
lostnlove68 (original poster member #36766) posted at 8:46 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2013
Mmmmm both sound interesting. I want to work on things to fix why the affair happened but I also want to understand how we can improve our relationship. Thanks for the information
ME:BS, HIM:WH
No kids
Married 12 years
Been together 29 years
Me 44
Him 45
DD Aug. 21 2012 the day after we stared to build a new house in a new country.
PippaPeach6 ( member #37523) posted at 9:40 PM on Friday, March 1st, 2013
After I read this, I read some more in the Normal Bar. There isn't a lot in the Normal Bar that isn't covered in Kiss Me (so far, now I'm nearly half done) but Kiss Me has a lot more 2X4s (some gentle, some not so gentle) and a heckuva lot more fun read. I have to add that Kiss Me is Christian but if you are not or not deeply religious, the bottom-line messages are welll-worth skimming what does not apply to you. Just my .02. 
Us: 50ish, madhatters, married 20 odd yrs
TT: May 2009 'til June
DDay for both: June 17, 2009
Me: 2x, same person, 1991
Him: 1.5 year PA (EA?) 2007-2009
Reconciled
Honey Badger don't care. - Randall
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