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User Topic: Infidelity Crisis
Regretswhatidid
♂ 38494
Member # 38494
Stop  Posted: 10:41 AM, March 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

My wife suggested that I read the book Infidelity Crisis: How to gain forgiveness and respect after your affair. I have only read the first 12 pages and already wish that I had known about it earlier. I realized that I have been reacting to her emotionally instead of consciously and have been making things worse because of it.

[This message edited by Regretswhatidid at 11:40 AM, March 11th (Monday)]


WH: 45 SA
BW: 34 (bytheboard)
DDays: 9/3/12 ,9/10/12 ,9/12/12 ,10/01/12
,12/03/12,more TT same events 2/24/12
Currently in therapy with a CSAT getting ready to start EMDR.
3x ONS= 2CL hook-ups,1 on TDY
46 Craigslist Ads, AFF, chatrooms,
4EA

Posts: 21 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Connecticut
authenticnow
♀ 16024
Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 2:09 PM, March 11th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

So what concrete plans do you have to change this dynamic?


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


Posts: 38944 | Registered: Sep 2007
Regretswhatidid
♂ 38494
Member # 38494
Default  Posted: 2:17 PM, March 18th (Monday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Let me aplogize for taking so long to answer you back. 1. Put myself in her shoes, to try to feel what she is feeling. 2. Taking a moment to reflect on what i'm about to say before actually saying it. 3. Answer back with a real conservation instead of a one word answer.


WH: 45 SA
BW: 34 (bytheboard)
DDays: 9/3/12 ,9/10/12 ,9/12/12 ,10/01/12
,12/03/12,more TT same events 2/24/12
Currently in therapy with a CSAT getting ready to start EMDR.
3x ONS= 2CL hook-ups,1 on TDY
46 Craigslist Ads, AFF, chatrooms,
4EA

Posts: 21 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Connecticut
Topic Posts: 3

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