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TearInYourHand posted 3/14/2013 23:50 PM

I've been meaning to share this for a while, but when I check my profile on this site, I can't believe its been 6 years since I joined, almost 6 1/2 since infidelity changed my life..

In October of this past year, I finally got married for the first time. I married a wonderful man that I met on meetup.com when I was least expecting to meet someone. I could say a million things about him, but the fact is the relationship itself is like any other - its tough as hell, its a teacher, and it rubs us in all the right, precise ways to cause conflict - proving the adage that the lesson never goes away until its learned! Its been a tough relationship from the start, as our personal baggage complemented each other in a way that intensified our differences (although we were both the betrayed partners in the past).

But despite all that and all our own baggage and flaws, my partner is an amazing man, with all the must-have qualities that I couldn't have dared hope for in a single package especially after experiencing infidelity. So, I'm married - although most of the time I don't feel that its registered yet. We were married in a very small destination wedding on Oahu. We went with it because my twin sister did the same thing on the Big Island the previous year, and neither one of us are about making a huge ordeal of things in front of mostly strangers that we have no connection with. So we got an intimate ceremony with the few that mattered, and a two week wedding-moon instead =)

Here's our photos: http://goo.gl/R3oBS

(I'm a bit proud of our wedding book, I laid this out myself and had these printed for our parents and grandparents)

We bought our first house together and also adopted our dog last year as well! =)

I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all, but a continuation of our personal journey, oftentimes still struggling chapter after chapter to tie down and conclude those lessons unlearned (man, how many chapters is this going to take?! ), trying to grow beyond our emotions and internal dialogue. We find a partner that helps us get there, while still hopefully being able to be loving, respectful and compassionate partners and friends to one another.

Thanks for letting me share. SI was at times the only thing that got me through many of my worst days. Much gratitude and thanks to this site and members for keeping this site going to support those going through the struggle.

[This message edited by TearInYourHand at 7:20 AM, March 15th (Friday)]

gma56 posted 3/15/2013 00:48 AM

Congrats to you and your new husband !

The link took me to the home page of the site. I didn't see where the pics were.

I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all, but a continuation of our personal journey

I like this.

Happy hugs and I wish you a lifetime of happiness together !
Gma

TearInYourHand posted 3/15/2013 07:12 AM

Thanks GMA =) Sorry about the link - it should work now!

stronggirl72 posted 3/15/2013 07:31 AM

I'm so happy for you both.

Two lines stood out for me:

'I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all'.

And this...

...'but a continuation of our personal journey'.

Life really is a journey, and does go on. It's so nice to read a happy story now and again.

[This message edited by stronggirl72 at 7:35 AM, March 15th (Friday)]

bbee posted 3/15/2013 08:08 AM

Griefstricken25 posted 3/15/2013 09:36 AM

Your photos are stunning, as are you! Congratulations and many blessings in your "continued journey".

Kajem posted 3/16/2013 06:30 AM

Congratulations and may your journey happily continue.

meaniemouse posted 3/16/2013 16:20 PM

Everything was absolutely beautiful.. Bride, Groom, Family, Setting. Just everything. Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness for you and your husband as you continue your journey together. Thanks so much for sharing.

gma56 posted 3/16/2013 16:21 PM

Absolutely beautiful wedding and pictures !
The wedding book is perfect ! Good job !!!
You both are so blessed to have found each other and now joined in marriage.
I wish you many happy years together.

Gma

MyVoice posted 3/16/2013 16:31 PM

Congratulations and thank you for sharing your happiness with us. You are absolutely gorgeous what a stunning bride and the groom is cute too

redvixen posted 3/16/2013 19:24 PM

Congratulations and thank you so much for an uplifting update! Many more wonderful years for you both!

Edited to add: Gorgeous photos, location, everything!!!

[This message edited by redvixen at 7:31 PM, March 16th (Saturday)]

LisaP posted 3/16/2013 23:10 PM

Beautiful!

LeftBehind08 posted 3/17/2013 00:37 AM

SO absolutely beautiful! Congratulations to you and your hubby!

Sad in AZ posted 3/17/2013 15:55 PM

Beautiful Congratulations!

better4me posted 3/17/2013 17:37 PM

I have no idea why, but I have tears in my eyes after looking at your wedding pictures. They are beautiful pictures and you two look very happy. The picture of the family while they were watching the ceremony was the one that "got" me! I wish you much happiness!

This speaks to me!

I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all, but a continuation of our personal journey, oftentimes still struggling chapter after chapter to tie down and conclude those lessons unlearned, trying to grow beyond our emotions and internal dialogue. We find a partner that helps us get there, while still hopefully being able to be loving, respectful and compassionate partners and friends to one another.

[This message edited by better4me at 5:38 PM, March 17th (Sunday)]

hurtbs posted 3/17/2013 21:03 PM

How beautiful. Congratulations!

irrelevancy posted 4/5/2013 10:48 AM

Wow! What an amazing book with amazing pictures!

Newlease posted 4/5/2013 14:37 PM

Beautiful couple and beautiful sentiment.

NL

redrock posted 4/5/2013 16:25 PM

Congrats!

Wow! The photos are gorgeous!

Wishing you the very best.

nowiknow23 posted 4/5/2013 16:48 PM

How lovely - the photos, the location, the two of you, and your post as well.

Thank you for sharing this and shining a little light for us all.

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