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User Topic: Married! (the journey continues)
TearInYourHand
♀ 14193
Member # 14193
Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, March 14th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been meaning to share this for a while, but when I check my profile on this site, I can't believe its been 6 years since I joined, almost 6 1/2 since infidelity changed my life..

In October of this past year, I finally got married for the first time. I married a wonderful man that I met on meetup.com when I was least expecting to meet someone. I could say a million things about him, but the fact is the relationship itself is like any other - its tough as hell, its a teacher, and it rubs us in all the right, precise ways to cause conflict - proving the adage that the lesson never goes away until its learned! Its been a tough relationship from the start, as our personal baggage complemented each other in a way that intensified our differences (although we were both the betrayed partners in the past).

But despite all that and all our own baggage and flaws, my partner is an amazing man, with all the must-have qualities that I couldn't have dared hope for in a single package especially after experiencing infidelity. So, I'm married - although most of the time I don't feel that its registered yet. We were married in a very small destination wedding on Oahu. We went with it because my twin sister did the same thing on the Big Island the previous year, and neither one of us are about making a huge ordeal of things in front of mostly strangers that we have no connection with. So we got an intimate ceremony with the few that mattered, and a two week wedding-moon instead =)

Here's our photos: http://goo.gl/R3oBS

(I'm a bit proud of our wedding book, I laid this out myself and had these printed for our parents and grandparents)

We bought our first house together and also adopted our dog last year as well! =)

I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all, but a continuation of our personal journey, oftentimes still struggling chapter after chapter to tie down and conclude those lessons unlearned (man, how many chapters is this going to take?! ), trying to grow beyond our emotions and internal dialogue. We find a partner that helps us get there, while still hopefully being able to be loving, respectful and compassionate partners and friends to one another.

Thanks for letting me share. SI was at times the only thing that got me through many of my worst days. Much gratitude and thanks to this site and members for keeping this site going to support those going through the struggle.

[This message edited by TearInYourHand at 7:20 AM, March 15th (Friday)]


35 - FBSO
“Integrity has no need of rules.”

Posts: 957 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Maryland.
gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 12:48 AM, March 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats to you and your new husband !

The link took me to the home page of the site. I didn't see where the pics were.

I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all, but a continuation of our personal journey

I like this.

Happy hugs and I wish you a lifetime of happiness together !
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
TearInYourHand
♀ 14193
Member # 14193
Default  Posted: 7:12 AM, March 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Thanks GMA =) Sorry about the link - it should work now!


35 - FBSO
“Integrity has no need of rules.”

Posts: 957 | Registered: Apr 2007 | From: Maryland.
stronggirl72
♀ 37293
Member # 37293
Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, March 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I'm so happy for you both.

Two lines stood out for me:

'I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all'.

And this...

...'but a continuation of our personal journey'.

Life really is a journey, and does go on. It's so nice to read a happy story now and again.

[This message edited by stronggirl72 at 7:35 AM, March 15th (Friday)]


"Taking the high road, and doing it with class."

DIVORCED!!


Posts: 155 | Registered: Oct 2012
bbee
♀ 17840
Member # 17840
Default  Posted: 8:08 AM, March 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage


This above all: to thine ownself be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man.

Hamlet, Act I, Scene 3

Love all, trust a few, do wrong to none.

All's Well That Ends Well, Act I, Scene 1


Posts: 6657 | Registered: Jan 2008 | From: SE US
Griefstricken25
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Member # 29183
Default  Posted: 9:36 AM, March 15th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Your photos are stunning, as are you! Congratulations and many blessings in your "continued journey".


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2529 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
Kajem
♀ 36134
Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 6:30 AM, March 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations and may your journey happily continue.


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5746 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
meaniemouse
♀ 10798
Member # 10798
Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, March 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Everything was absolutely beautiful.. Bride, Groom, Family, Setting. Just everything. Best wishes for a lifetime of happiness for you and your husband as you continue your journey together. Thanks so much for sharing.


Act as if what you do matters. It does. William James

Posts: 2146 | Registered: May 2006 | From: Midwest
gma56
♀ 19595
Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, March 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Absolutely beautiful wedding and pictures !
The wedding book is perfect ! Good job !!!
You both are so blessed to have found each other and now joined in marriage.
I wish you many happy years together.

Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20387 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
MyVoice
♀ 35695
Member # 35695
Default  Posted: 4:31 PM, March 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations and thank you for sharing your happiness with us. You are absolutely gorgeous what a stunning bride and the groom is cute too


Me:BW 46, Him:WH 50
two kids DD14 and DS17
Married 26 years
OW 28, crew member (he was the ships captain)
"People are formed by their actions, not their ideals" unknown

Posts: 480 | Registered: May 2012 | From: Australia
redvixen
♀ 15259
Member # 15259
Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, March 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congratulations and thank you so much for an uplifting update! Many more wonderful years for you both!

Edited to add: Gorgeous photos, location, everything!!!

[This message edited by redvixen at 7:31 PM, March 16th (Saturday)]


Me, BS Him WS early 40's at the start, cheated before and after cancer diagnosis.
Two A's, two OW's, online looking for sex partners, two false R's.
Threw him out in January 2009.
Divorce final March 30th, 2010

XWH died Dec. 2010


Posts: 4105 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: New Jersey
LisaP
♀ 15088
Member # 15088
Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, March 16th (Saturday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful!


Me BS

Divorced!

~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown


Posts: 2194 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Oregon
LeftBehind08
♀ 38705
Member # 38705
Default  Posted: 12:37 AM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

SO absolutely beautiful! Congratulations to you and your hubby!


Sometimes it's lonely, Sometimes it's only me & the shadows that fill this room...
But it's a great day to be alive & the sun still shines when I close my eyes ~Travis Tritt

Posts: 84 | Registered: Mar 2013 | From: Washington
Sad in AZ
♀ 24239
Member # 24239
Default  Posted: 3:55 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful Congratulations!


Hallelujah! Holy shit! Where's the tylenol?

Posts: 20561 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Upstate NY
better4me
♀ 30341
Member # 30341
Default  Posted: 5:37 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have no idea why, but I have tears in my eyes after looking at your wedding pictures. They are beautiful pictures and you two look very happy. The picture of the family while they were watching the ceremony was the one that "got" me! I wish you much happiness!

This speaks to me!

I've come to see a relationship not as a new beginning at all, but a continuation of our personal journey, oftentimes still struggling chapter after chapter to tie down and conclude those lessons unlearned, trying to grow beyond our emotions and internal dialogue. We find a partner that helps us get there, while still hopefully being able to be loving, respectful and compassionate partners and friends to one another.

[This message edited by better4me at 5:38 PM, March 17th (Sunday)]


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:53
Divorced

Posts: 3267 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Iowa
hurtbs
♀ 10866
Member # 10866
Default  Posted: 9:03 PM, March 17th (Sunday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How beautiful. Congratulations!


Me BW Him XSAWH
DDays 2006, and then numerous more
Divorced 2012

"In life, unlike chess, the game continues after checkmate." - Asimov
"Be patient and tough; someday this pain will be useful to you." - Ovid


Posts: 15347 | Registered: Jun 2006
irrelevancy
♀ 33579
Member # 33579
Default  Posted: 10:48 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Wow! What an amazing book with amazing pictures!


The greatest gift a father can give his children is to love (or at the very least, respect) their mother....

That didn't happen.... we're divorced as a result.


Posts: 49 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: healing land
Newlease
♀ 7767
Member # 7767
Default  Posted: 2:37 PM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Beautiful couple and beautiful sentiment.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7807 | Registered: Aug 2005
redrock
♀ 21538
Member # 21538
Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Congrats!

Wow! The photos are gorgeous!

Wishing you the very best.


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

Posts: 3163 | Registered: Nov 2008 | From: Michigan
nowiknow23
♀ 33226
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

How lovely - the photos, the location, the two of you, and your post as well.

Thank you for sharing this and shining a little light for us all.


You can call me NIK

"Keep your face always toward the sunshine - and shadows will fall behind you."
-Walt Whitman


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