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Unagie
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Default  Posted: 2:16 AM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

As many have said being a madhatter is horrible on every level but I find that everyone is right on another point as well I get more done when I focus on what I need to fix in me due to my wayward behavior then concentrating on my status as a BS. Now don't get me wrong I do concentrate on both depending on the day, hour, minute, second and I do get work on me done as a BS as well. I have learned as a BS that I cannot control whether or not he will hurt me but I can control whether or not I allow it to continue to hurt me...hmm did that make sense I'm just to tired to proofread. ..

As a WS though I figured out my unhealthy coping mechanisms, I have boundaries that are getting stronger, I no longer stuff my feelings, I am concentrating on making my life prosperous with or without anyone by my side. I am working on every aspect of me and sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is on my back about to crush me and sometimes I can laugh and smile but hey I think I'm making progress.

Not really sure where this was going just felt like sharing.




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silverhopes
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Default  Posted: 2:20 AM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I have learned as a BS that I cannot control whether or not he will hurt me but I can control whether or not I allow it to continue to hurt me

Yes, that totally makes sense!

It sounds like those boundaries as a BS - not letting him hurt you anymore - tie in to the boundaries you're learning wearing your WS hat. All of those boundaries are to protect you and to help you live a healthy, authentic life. It's a wonderful thing. WS, BS, we're the same person.

Glad to read what you wrote.


Find peace. Or sleep on it.
Sometimes my monkeys, sometimes my circus.
Infidelities are like icebergs - they may take many different shapes and sizes, but they all damage your ship.

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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 5:18 AM, March 20th (Wednesday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Yessss!!!! I totally get it .


Suppressing your feelings only locks them in place.

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