As many have said being a madhatter is horrible on every level but I find that everyone is right on another point as well I get more done when I focus on what I need to fix in me due to my wayward behavior then concentrating on my status as a BS. Now don't get me wrong I do concentrate on both depending on the day, hour, minute, second and I do get work on me done as a BS as well. I have learned as a BS that I cannot control whether or not he will hurt me but I can control whether or not I allow it to continue to hurt me...hmm did that make sense I'm just to tired to proofread. ..
As a WS though I figured out my unhealthy coping mechanisms, I have boundaries that are getting stronger, I no longer stuff my feelings, I am concentrating on making my life prosperous with or without anyone by my side. I am working on every aspect of me and sometimes it feels like the weight of the world is on my back about to crush me and sometimes I can laugh and smile but hey I think I'm making progress.
Not really sure where this was going just felt like sharing.