Ok quick background.
In may my brother inlaws wife confessed to me she was cheating on him. I met him and told him everything. He asked me to get close to her and get her to spill details and to get her to work on marriage. Over the next few months I did just that and kept giving him information and betraying her trust but giving bro inlaw what he asked for. ( which my wife encouraged since its her brother)
One day in sept. we got too close and she proceeded to give me a bj, I stoppped her during and before finishing, told her to leave and cut off contact with her. She then went after a friend of mine and did same thing not to my knowledge until friend told me. She would keep trying to contact me and one day she did and I replied via text when working with my friend. he replied back some dirty comments and so did i guys will be guys. not to my knowledge she was keeping a log of this text in a journal.
My Brother inlaws mariage was already over but he found her journal Jan 1st and let my wife read it on Jan 7th, she filed for div the next morning. ( i didnt even know she found out or filed for divorce for 5 more days,) WHen i was served papers at work i was informed she and kids were gone and it is over. She is being nice during divorce and we are friendly and dont fight. Her brother and I still talk and hang out occasionally, we are selling our home and splitting up.
When her and I are together she is nice, sometimes playful, shows no emotions, no anger. We had small issues b4 this but thats it.
My question is should I hold out hope that she will reconsider reconciliation. I have written sincere remorseful letters to her broither and her and spoken with parents telling them how wrong I was. I have never done anything like this in the past and I am full of guilt foir hurting the one and true love of my life. I keep apologizing in eoither letters or poems to her, offerning anything I can as a guarantee that it will never happen. She said its 95% who it is.
We have 3 children all under 10 and have been maried for 15 yrs.
She did know about me helping her brother as well.
WIll she ever try to get past anger and work this out before divorce is final?