I just finished this book by Solomon and Teagno, and it was a GREAT book. I would rank it as the second best book I've read about the A. Not Just Friends was the best.
I orginally got this book because I thought it would help me with my post D-Day sex problems. It was nothing about that...it was all about how to create a relationship that will last after you find out about the A.
It explains the four stages of a relationship (Sweet, Sour, Differentiation, and Synergy). Then it explains the three types of Intimacies (Selt, Conflict and Affection). Lastly it explains the three types of Infidelity causes (Fear, Loneliness and Anger).
The authors explains when an A happens in a marriage and once you know what type of infidelity it was, why it happened and how to deal with it.
Lastly, they tell you how to take the shit soup you have post D-Day and turn it into a normal, healthy relationship. This is all predicated on the fact that the WS wants to R.
It's an easy book to read, but very informative. I borrowed it from the library but plan to buy a copy and let my fWW read it.