Once the stop sign is on, BS's can't respond, even if you want them to.
So when you talk to people, do you always try to offer a response or a solution? Do you always perceive that they are asking for help?
One of the best things I've learned (although I still struggle with it...) is to not respond with anything more than a simple appropriate acknowledgement. My BW says I have a habit of telling her what she should do, pretty much with anything she talks to me about. Sometimes she just wants to say something and not have someone tell her what to do. Is that something you have a problem with?