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isadora (original poster member #29130) posted at 2:50 PM on Saturday, March 23rd, 2013
FWH and I were trying to squeeze in a quickie before he had to go to work. 
The 2 year old was at his grandparents, the two girls were distracted with donuts or so we thought. the door was locked - but it failed and the 6 year old walked in on us. She started giggling and ran away. The she brings back the 4 year old and the lock failed again. So the 2 of them are standing in the door laughing at us. (we were under the covers, just in case in ca after the first fail - which FWH blamed on me for not locking the door).
As we dressed, we heard the 4 year old laughing - saying they were having sex. (she has said it before but she thinks is just kissing in bed).
So the girls are laughing at us. I don't think they really understand because they couldn't see really anything except that we had no clothes on.
I am not sure how to handle (I'm waffling between ignoring it unless they bring it up again or talking to them a little about what happened). I'm trying to head off the potentially more embarrassing moment of announcing it at the family dinner table in front of our parents, siblings, teachers, school friends. Well you get the picture.
Epic door lock fail! 
Me: BW Him: who cares
Divorced: 4/2015
2 DDs and 2DSs
Who knows how many affairs at this point
Multiple D-Days
I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.
dlmos ( member #36839) posted at 3:43 PM on Saturday, March 23rd, 2013
I've got nothing to help you on this but that is hilarious!
BH (32)
DS - 7, DD - 6
Divorced
dameia ( member #36072) posted at 3:45 PM on Saturday, March 23rd, 2013
Cause you know they WILL bring it up, at the worst moment possible.
Me: BS
D-Day: 7/7/12
Trust is like paper. Once it's crumpled it can never be perfect again.
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 5:27 PM on Saturday, March 23rd, 2013
Congratulations! You've just completed the "future psychotherapy" quest in "Parenting 3 - Crap! Now they outnumber us!"
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
TrulyReconciled ( member #3031) posted at 3:39 PM on Monday, March 25th, 2013
Just get it out of the way and put it on Facebook already ...
"In a time of deceit, telling the Truth is a revolutionary act."
Mama_of_3_Kids ( member #26651) posted at 3:51 PM on Monday, March 25th, 2013
This is why we have a, "knock before entering," rule It doesn't matter whose room it is, if the door is closed, you knock before entering!
Me: BW/33 The kidlets: DS16, DS12, and DD10 The hounds: Three Shih Tzu's The felines: Two short haired kitteh's
lieshurt ( member #14003) posted at 4:17 PM on Monday, March 25th, 2013
Time to get a new lock
No one changes unless they want to. Not if you beg them. Not if you shame them. Not if you use reason, emotion, or tough love. There is only one thing that makes someone change: their own realization that they need to.
simplydevastated ( member #25001) posted at 4:17 PM on Monday, March 25th, 2013
Oh, how embarrassing! Hopefully they don't mention it in school, I'd hate to have that brought up at a parent/teacher conference
Me - BS, 40 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS11, DD8
Getting my ducks in a row for divorce... finally (4+ D-Days too many - listed in profile.)
HFSSC ( member #33338) posted at 10:50 PM on Monday, March 25th, 2013
We've traumatized both our kids. DS21 (16 at the time) walked in on us when we thought we were alone in the house we were building and were trying to grab a quickie.
The younger one has walked in on us twice. But the MOST embarrassing moment was when he told me one evening, "Mom, could y'all keep it quiet in there when you're doing that? I'm right out here and can hear you."
Me, 56
Him, 48 (JMSSC)
Married 26 years. Reconciled.
isadora (original poster member #29130) posted at 11:30 AM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
well it's been a few days without the girls bringing it up. But the two of them have memories like elephants. Although they did bring up the fact that we kiss eachother (which they find gross).
Me: BW Him: who cares
Divorced: 4/2015
2 DDs and 2DSs
Who knows how many affairs at this point
Multiple D-Days
I can only control myself, no one else. I do not have that kind of power.
Myname ( member #23138) posted at 1:24 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
Oh you know this is going to be announced during Easter dinner and it is the talk of school.
DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 45
12-08-10: S
Divorced and moved on with my life.
DragnHeart ( member #32122) posted at 1:52 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
Wh and I have become experts in "doing it" in stealth mode. We share the bedroom with both kids so any adult activities had to be done once they were asleep and done quietly...
I agree with Mama. There should always be a "knock first" rule. In my parents house this was the case. Here, everyone walks in on everyone. This is especially frustrating when in the bathroom. The frame where the door handle would lock into was ripped off (when BIL slammed up against the locked door) so it doesn't even shut tightly. I haven't peed alone in four years...if its not the kids walking in its one of the dogs...
My BIL gf now wakes up my father in law each morning. Drives me nuts. She doesn't knock, just walks right in.
Dd (4) has woken up while we have been busy but I'm not sure she's ever noticed. So far she hasn't said anything 
Me: BS 46 WH: 37 (BrokenHeart911)Four little dragons. Met 2006. Married 2008. Dday of LTPA with co worker October 19th 2010. Knew about EA with ow1 before that. Now up to PA #5. Serial fucking Cheater.
SouthernGal ( member #27315) posted at 2:23 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
"Mom, could y'all keep it quiet in there when you're doing that? I'm right out here and can hear you."
Oh yeah ... been there.
While XWH and I were in R and enjoying a little HB we were apparently a little louder than I thought because suddenly there was a knock in the bedroom door and SG2 (13/14 at the time) says, "Hey I'm glad y'all are getting back together and having a good time, but could you keep it down? I can't hear my Pokemon game, k? Geesh ... grown ups."
Yup. Scarred her for life (or at least that's what she told her bestie).
BS (Me) XWH (him) M nearly 16 yrs
1 DD (teens)
D-day #1 12/09, #2 2/10
Divorced 10/6/10
Kajem ( member #36134) posted at 2:51 PM on Tuesday, March 26th, 2013
When my kids were preschoolers they all had trouble going back to sleep after they woke to use the bathroom. They would come into us. Someone gave us the great idea to make sleeping with us uncomfortable. So we got some sleeping bags and put them under the bed.
When they woke up they could come into our room and sleep in the bag on the floor.
One night XH and I were going at it hot and heavy.. I looked over the edge of the bed.. to see 2 wide awake eyes looking up at me.. and she waves!
Talk about a mood killer.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - UnknownRelationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.
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