I don't even know how to start this.
Some background -
When my son was born my sister made it very clear that I'm not to ask my mother for help (babysitting or watching him during summer vacations etc...) because when she retires that's "her" time. I had never had plans to ask anyone for help, even though my grandmother watched me and my sister when we were kids so my mother could go back to work. That was 9 yrs ago.
Fast forward -
For the past 6 yrs my sister has owned a small pet store (food, grooming, pet supplies). That she cannot run on her own. She doesn't earn enough to hire someone and she can't find a groomer so she does the groom and my retired mother goes in everyday to help her. My 71 yr old, retired mother stocks shelves, answers phones, schedules appointments, prices products, helps with grooming etc... and doesn't get paid. She does without complaint and my sister still tells me that I can't ask for help because mom's retirement is "her" time.
Fast forward (again) to today.
I call my mother to see how she's doing. She's fallen a couple times and her knees are just not strong enough anymore, and I wanted to give her an update on my daughter.
After I get off the phone with mom my sister calls. She's all dramatic about how she's wanted to talk to me about mom and what's going on. She (sister) has called in the past to complain, yes complain, about my mother because she didn't run a sale right or accidentally gave too much change or not charged enough. Simple mistakes. Today she told me that she wanted to talk to me about mom and her condition. I said I know about her knees giving out and that they are not strong enough. My sister had to take her to a pharmacy to so she could buy handles for the toilet so she could get up and she (mom) wanted to get another set so she could still go and help my sister at the store. Yes, she still is trying to help my sister, the one that is complaining about free help.
Now, my sister is telling me that she doesn't have the time to take care of mom and that she's thinking about putting her in a nursing home. My mom can still take care of herself, cook, clean, etc... it's her knees.
I'm already beyond annoyed because of what she's saying. So I calmly say "not a problem, maybe we can work out a schedule." She said no that she's going to put taking care of mom more on me because she's down at her store 7 days a week.
I have no problem helping my mother, I thought that a schedule (she could do morning and I could evenings) would work for the both us as I'm still looking for work so I can finally get a divorce (sister knows nothing about my situation and it's going to stay that way).
I tried to explain to her that my daughter is sick and there's not much that I can do this week because I don't know if my daughter will be admitted to the hospital. I'm keeping a close eye on her. She seemed more pissed about that. She doesn't want to help mom, but mom can sure as hell bust her ass to help my sister.
My sister has always been this way, everything has to be about her. She lives 5 minutes away from my mom, and that's with traffic on the roads, WITH TRAFFIC she's 5 minutes away. I'm about 20(ish) minutes away. Still not a problem for me. I just wanted a schedule. Nope. It's all me.
So now, I'm taking care of my mother, my kids, keeping up with the condo and things here, trying to find work and prepare for a divorce. I'm not complaining about taking care of my mom, I'm complaining that my BITCH sister is refusing after EVERYTHING my mother has done for her. I was also thinking about relocating down south because the jobs are scarce around here and I need to take care of my kids. That won't happen now because as soon as I leave she'll put my mother in a nursing home.
There's more but I'm to pissed off to type it all.
If you made it this far thank you for your time and patience