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not4ever posted 3/26/2013 17:15 PM

Hello all. I keep hearing about a VAR. Can someone explain what this is and how/where to get one? I'm three months in from Dday, One month of NC and working hard towards R - but the trust is shattered and I'm still getting TT's. I need to put my mind at ease that the contact is truly over. Thanks.

me-BS 43
WS- 40
Dday-Dec.26, 2012

simplydevastated posted 3/26/2013 17:17 PM

It's a voice activated recorder. You can find them online or in stores like Radio Shack. I think some phones have apps that you can download.

not4ever posted 3/26/2013 18:18 PM

Thanks Simplydevastated. Are they small enough to conceals easily and what about battery life. I guess I better go do some research. I never thought I'd be dealing with this. So much for trust.

avicarswife posted 3/27/2013 02:42 AM

They are a dictaphone with a voice activated setting. Quite small - I can conceal mine in a closed hand. You can get them with rechargeable batteries or AA or AAAs. Using the lithium batteries it lasts several days.

exhausted lady posted 3/27/2013 02:51 AM

You can get them at almost any store that carries electronics....just be sure to find one that doesn't light up in use. LOL.

We had a member in the past that pasted one under the dash of her H's car, it fell out, and he thought it was a bomb. Mass hilarity ensued.....once you get past 51 posts you can read it in Investigative Tips forum.

But, hide it someplace sneaky in a place he would likely talk to OW. The car. Home office. Wherever.

We had a member recently that busted her whole WH's secret life wide open with one, and it saved her from (probably) years of future misery.

It's a good idea. A good place to hide one is in the pocket behind the drivers seat in hubby's vehicle. Too bad you can't hide one in his boxers.

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