She went back to her BS, in July, I believe her BS does not know full extent of affair. Thinks it was only EA, like she told him.
I have not told STBXH, about this latest development.
Should I? And does it really matter?
I don't really know how I feel about this? And why do I still care, as long as its not STBXH? I can still access his cell records, (yeah yeAh I know) and last contact was July 14, my DD#2!
Me -BS (48)
Him - Who cares?
DS 20, DD 16
I can still access his cell records, (yeah yeAh I know)
In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.
If you're done, and you have no children with STBXH....it's his problem, NOT yours. I know it's hard not to snoop....but DO NOT get involved!
Truly, you have been laid off from the position of someone who should give a fuck about his problems. Let him deal with his messes. You go on about your merry way and try to ignore the trainwreck.
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
I'm in agreement that if you believe your STBXH is still in NC with OW then let it go. Do not tell him.
As for a point made by beenthere2, I would make no apology for access to the phone records. Your STBXH lied to you for a LONG time, the OW was a friend. After how you've been brutalized its only natural to keep a wary eye.
As to why this matters to you...I think its only natural to have a curiosity about the OW, even if that chapter is closed...we all stop to watch a train wreck, it just that you're not on the train anymore!
Yes, I agree not saying a thing to STBXH.
I'd probably tell my husband that the zoo had decided to breed her in order to propagate her species, so she's knocked up now.
But I'm funny like that.
"Aww guess your Skank girlfriend has really moved on, she must be so in-love with her hubby again"
But, he would only say something stupid/mean to me and I would be the one hurting. I much prefer for him to find out on his own and, and me tell him then, I knew all along!