Hey Irq. Welcome to the club that nobody ever wanted to join. You will find a lot of support and great people here.
Have you had a chance to check out the healing library yet? It's the yellow box in the top left corner of the screen. There are some great articles in there.
I don't know when you DDay was (the day you found out), but I am guessing it was more towards the end of last year?) This is a tricky time, as emotions tend to run all over the place. (They will for quite some time).
Good job getting into counseling. That will help.
Has she broken off contact with her affair partners?
Other, more helpful people will be along, but wanted to let you know that we are here for ya. Sorry you had to join the club.