My WH got caught in A bc of text messages I found and he admitted it and started counseling, only to take it away 2 weeks later and said he and the OW planted the text messages bc I believed they were having an affair and he knew I'd snoop through his phone.
One of my friends caught her husband in bed (literally with her eyes) with the OW and he denied the A all the way through their D.
WHY DO THEY DO THIS??? At least lying when its not known and found or lying about the extent of it makes some sense, although just as crappy.
I think maybe it makes you even more mad on the bad days bc you wonder if they think you are that stupid or if they are just trying to see if you go crazy!