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risingfromashes (original poster member #3903) posted at 1:57 AM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
The SA-NPD-EX-Idiot calls today and asks if I want to join him and our DD's for Easter dinner.
WTF???
He thinks that him and I are going to sit down at a table and enjoy a nice ham dinner? 
I politely told him that I appreciate the offer but I would not be able to attend.
He proceeds to tell me that he invited me to come over for Easter because it "was the right thing to do".
I was puzzled for a few seconds about his motive then it came to me....He wants everyone to think he is a good guy! He invited his ex-wife for Easter because he didn't want her to be alone.
In reality I will have a lovely breakfast including candy with my girls. They will be gone for the afternoon so I can work on cleaning my new house. I will eat peeps and not have to cook dinner for them.
This looks pretty good to me!
This feels like recovery.
ruinedandbroken ( member #29250) posted at 3:02 AM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
Yay for you!!!
And yay for peeps!! 
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 8&11
Married 14 yrs Together 21
gma56 ( member #19595) posted at 3:53 AM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
This looks pretty good to me!
This feels like recovery.
I don't think you can ask any more from yourself than that statement.
Gma
BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.
phmh ( member #34146) posted at 12:23 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
What a great attitude and fantastic response!
Seems to me the right thing to do would have been to not cheat on your spouse, but what do I know. It's a little late to worry about that now!
Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!
Married: 11 years, no kids
Character is destiny
nutmegkitty ( member #33882) posted at 12:55 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
The answer is yes, he is off his rocker, but you knew that.
Congrats on the house! It's going to be a beautiful day tomorrow, perfect for opening all of the windows and filling your new house with fresh air. Enjoy!
Me - happy!
2 DDs
Very happily divorced from an NPD since 2013.
LadyQ ( member #32847) posted at 3:35 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
t/j:
SA-NPD-EX-Idiot
Can be anagrammed to Spandex Idiot. Just thought I'd share!
End t/j
Tune out the noise of what others tell you about who you are and work it out for yourself...
Chrysalis123 ( member #27148) posted at 3:42 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
It also LOOKS like recovery too!
Congrats 
Someone I once loved gave me/ a box full of darkness/ It took me years to understand/ That this, too, was a gift. - Mary Oliver
Just for the record darling, not all positive changes feel positive in the beginning -S C Lourie
nowiknow23 ( member #33226) posted at 3:52 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
Spandex Idiot
*snort!*
I'm LOVING your recovery, rising!
You can call me NIK
And never grow a wishbone, daughter, where your backbone ought to be.
― Sarah McMane
risingfromashes (original poster member #3903) posted at 5:09 PM on Saturday, March 30th, 2013
risingfromashes (original poster member #3903) posted at 11:12 PM on Sunday, March 31st, 2013
P.S.
As the girls prepared to head to their Dad's for Easter dinner the oldest asks "Did Dad really invite you dinner?"
I told her that he had and I thanked him, but I thought it might be awkward. There was a group daughter rolling of eyes.
I asked what they thought. "Oh yeah Mom that would be weird!".
So...my hunch was right. He wanted to look like the good guy.
Backfire!
It pays to say as little as possible.
Hard lesson to learn but so valuable.
irrelevancy ( member #33579) posted at 4:43 PM on Friday, April 5th, 2013
It's still all about him, isn't it.
The greatest gift a father can give his children is to love (or at the very least, respect) their mother....
That didn't happen.... we're divorced as a result.
tesla ( member #34697) posted at 1:52 PM on Saturday, April 6th, 2013
...spandex idiot...
Love how you handled the 'kind' request but I really love the mental image of a bunch of girls simultaneously rolling their eyes.
"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear
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