RE: thread on SO "needing space".
Thanks for the hugs and support. This just sucks.
I had been thinking a lot of what he was doing to me. How he could treat me this way. And hurt me again for the second time. To go days and days knowing I was missing him and reaching out to him to contact me.....and he didn't feel it was wrong to give me 'crickets'?!
Since I had no idea when he would feel like talking to me, I called and left a detailed voicemail on Friday. Started with I'd rather do this in person or at least on the phone at a bare minimum....I told him I can't do this anymore. And that I understand wanting space, it's just how we go about it that is very important, etc. I did tell him that I loved him but I can't keep going through this. Of course I said more, but I ended it.
I wish it could've been in person as I've never done it any other way.
He did send a text message shortly after my voicemail:
HIM: "First of all, I do plan on calling you at some point. I never changed my FB status since last summer. I was talking with my sister and she mentioned that you thought I was sleeping with somebody else. Nope, not the case. I respect you more than that btw you're only the third person I've slept with -- or what I'm telling you is that I don't go just picking up women. Saying it's over is the right thing. My feelings are based on just me and not anybody else.
ME: I was/am pretty sure you changed your FB status shortly after I did mine. Doesn't really matter now I guess. It's a shame it came down to how it ended. Communication is pretty important. Better now than later I guess. I know we will all miss you guys.
Do you want your clothes/toiletries? When can I get my stuff from your place?"
HIM: Let's plan on next week- Wednesday or Thursday.
ME: Sounds good. <end>
So that is it?! That is all we have to say for a year a half and not even talking on the phone?! I'm so glad he 'planned on calling me sometime'.
No, I don't go looking at his FB page to check the status of our relationship, I just happened to look at his page and saw it.
I spoke with his sister this morning, and she mentioned he sent her a text last night that I broke up with him and that he couldn't blame me.
This still hurts. I still can't believe it's over. We were very involved and it's a lonely feeling in various ways. Everyone is busy with their families and Spouses/SO's so hanging out and doing things doesn't happen.
My parents don't celebrate holidays (nor can we just hang out/supper, etc), so it was nice celebrating with him and his family. Now? Back to me and my two little kids and trying to figure out something fun with them. No matter what, it's always more fun sharing your time with others and I really crave the adult interact.
This is going to take awhile to get over.
I've tried really hard to keep my composure around my kiddos and limit the tears. I broke down a bit last night and DD4 was concerned when she saw my silent tears. I calmed her and told her sometimes we get sad and it's okay.
And dating again any time soon? I have NO desire to and know I need to heal some first.....but I don't want to be alone forever. And the odds of finding someone who is great with my kids, etc is daunting. Yea, better not think of that right now...
Oh, and the kicker? My three year antiversary is next week. Fuck.
[This message edited by GrievingMommy at 9:21 PM, March 30th (Saturday)]