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GrievingMommy posted 3/31/2013 19:54 PM

One of the things that made me upset about the break up on Friday, is missing the great sex and intimacy I've shared/had for a year and a half. I don't want to be on the damn bus!!

I am a very sexual person. I crave even just the physical contact such as holding hands or cuddling. I am really going to miss sex. I'm not into casual sex, so no FWB's, etc.

The longest I've gone is six months without sex (after deciding to end the R attempt and our divorce - was then followed closely by a short fling). I know that is short in the scheme of things, but I have a feeling it'll be longer than that this time.

Let the frustration and battery jokes at work begin. Oh, and yes I have an array of 'toys', but it just isn't the same.

nowiknow23 posted 3/31/2013 20:44 PM

If it's any consolation, you have 6 months to go before the bus will be by to pick you up.

(((GrievingMommy)))

phmh posted 3/31/2013 20:59 PM

I hear you.

I'll be picked up by the bus later this month.

If you're just craving human contact, can you get a massage? If you lived near me, I can recommend a super hot European guy who might spice up your dreams a bit

Kajem posted 3/31/2013 21:34 PM

I get it, I am the same way.. it's been almost a year for me. It gets easier --- with time.

And find a great massage therapist and book regular appointments... it will save your sanity.

Hugs,

K

cayc posted 3/31/2013 21:40 PM

Oh the bus isn't so bad! Bob! Drinks! Laughs! Curtains!

I'm rather enjoying the bus

ManBearDivorce posted 3/31/2013 21:48 PM

I crave even just the physical contact such as holding hands or cuddling
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Oh those things? Totally forgotten those. I actually feel cleansed from the addictive nature of sex. Sometimes it comes back but it's just like nicotine for me. I can bat it down. Just got to get used to it. 1 year and counting for me!

Sad in AZ posted 4/1/2013 06:17 AM

If you haven't gone more than 6 months without sex, then you've never been on the bus. If your record holds up, you'll have nothing to worry about.

Seriously, you have to understand your audience...

Oh the Irony posted 4/1/2013 07:35 AM

Up the exercise and get massages.

I train in a martial art where I get to touch people. It does help a bit.

Also, I find that really feeling my sensuality is a good thing. I treat myself in a sensual way--take outdoor showers, use bath gels etc that appeal to my senses. I think for awhile I tried to tamp it down, but opening it up is much better. Plus when you feel super sexy and sensual you get much more attention from the opposite sex!

clralb posted 4/1/2013 10:25 AM

No more FWB for me. Actually, I don't mind it so much.

I guess the requirements are to not have had sex in a year. I have about six more months to go, but I am going to position myself to get a nice window seat.

When I do get off the bus, it's going to be with someone I truly care about with hopes of a future together. May be a long ride, but I'm willing to wait.

Syzy posted 4/1/2013 12:41 PM

yeah I've had very very little sex this last 14 months.. I hate it, its crap.

But whatever I can't force the right thing to show up.

k94ever posted 4/1/2013 14:17 PM

Pushing two years here.

None of us WANT to be riding this bus.

But I'd rather be on the bus with all the wonderful folks here than running the risk of STD's with random men or settling for less than what I want.

I'm worth more than that.

k9

[This message edited by k94ever at 2:18 PM, April 1st (Monday)]

GrievingMommy posted 4/1/2013 15:23 PM

I know none of us WANT to be on the bus. That is a given. The six months was with a fling and I'm not doing that again. I'm also hoping to make it awhile into a relationship before taking that step.

I do have human interaction as I have my 4 yr olds who give lots of hugs and cuddles....but obviously not the kind of cuddles and contact I'm refering to.

My massage therapist a female. Even if massage with a guy did something for me, it'd just get me hot and bothered. What a let down. haha

I definitely would rather be on the bus than with someone simply for sex and getting nothing out of it or worse, it making me feel bad.

SouthernGal posted 4/2/2013 07:19 AM

Heading toward 3 years ... It gets easier after a while. It also gets easier when you choose to not make it a focal point. In other words don't start worrying about being on the bus six months before you even get on it. The more you choose to focus on and whine about it and focus on other parts of your life it will be easier.

k94ever posted 4/2/2013 08:42 AM

WINE!!!!!!!! Did somebody say WINE!!!!!!

Hell yes there's wine on this bus.

And COOKIES!!!!!!!

k9

SBB posted 4/2/2013 09:16 AM

I went 7m on that damned bus. In some ways it was harder (boom-tish) those weeks after falling off the bus momentarily than it was for those 7 months.

Like a mozzie bite - if you scratch it it makes it worse. Leave it alone and it goes away. Until you fall out of the bus again. I've got to stop scratching the damn thing before it makes me crazy,

FWB would be awesome but it seems to ALWAYS get complicated. BOB doesn't cut it I'm afraid.

I hear you sister.

SoHappyNow posted 4/2/2013 09:38 AM

I don't believe that any of us are ENTHUSED about this darn bus......I mean, the company is great and all, but I never wanted to enter the pageant "Miss Born Again Virgin", kwim?

FaithFool posted 4/2/2013 23:01 PM

Year 5 is approaching. Year 5 is approaching!

Just sayin.

It no longer enters my mind unless I'm watching a Ryan Gosling movie.

*snork*

Why yes, I'd love SOME WINE THANKS!

HurtsButImOK posted 4/2/2013 23:08 PM

In 2 weeks I will be joining everyone on the bus too

Glad to hear there will be wine though

npain posted 4/3/2013 15:09 PM

This is definitely a bus NONE of us WANT to be on.

But like others here, I'm not into FWB or casual sex and I plan on waiting until my kids are older to start dating again so I plan to be on this bus for LOOONG time.

But I fill my life up with other things and be content with the hugs my kids give me at night. And try not to think about it...20 months and counting

GrievingMommy posted 4/3/2013 15:46 PM

I think I need to start drinking.

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