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Strawda posted 4/1/2013 09:45 AM

I Just need to Not be so scared and open up more to my BS of my feelings and thoughts and understand what I am even thinking and feeling. Or the R wont work she sed. I have to know who I am and show who I am and feel self werth b4 I can know what to do for the relationship and help her heal. I have a hard time showing my love and why I love her. she asks why I love her all the time. cant figger out what to realy sey. I do realy love her to. My words mean nothing realy after an A thou. I havnt had IC for 2weaks missd my buss on 1weak and they closed the next. So I am nerves all over again bn awile. most are seying you need to show yu BS you are attracted and want them sexuly cuss they do feel ungly snd not sexy. My BS sess they dont feel good looking and sexy all the time. But my BS also sess they feel all I want is there body parts when we have sex not them. How do I show they not a piece of meat or a toy. I tell BS they not all the time. I need all help I can get If you have any ideas that helped you ide be greatfull.

[This message edited by Strawda at 11:34 AM, April 1st (Monday)]

UnexpectedSong posted 4/1/2013 20:16 PM

Be consistent and stay the course. Even if she gives up, you need to keep working on yourself.

As for showing love... Is there another way that she will feel love? Have you read "The Five Love Languages"? If you can find out her love language, she may be better able to understand that you love her.

unforgivable5 posted 4/1/2013 21:24 PM

As far as answering what you love about her, take some time (not in front of her)and really think about it and maybe write them down. Its sometimes hard to come up with answers on the spot, especially with the pressure of this situation. But think about your BS in differnt situations and write down your thoughts. It doesn't have to be overly romantic, just true. Maybe its as simple as the way she holds a pencil or the how she ansers the phone.

Strawda posted 4/2/2013 22:47 PM

TY for some info, I will look into The Five Love Languages. Any help is good help.