Me: BW (35)
A little background: I had my first child 6 years ago. With that delivery I tore and also had an episiotomy. Sex after that was painful but that was also contributed to the fact my then husband would not take no for an answer when he wanted sex. (Edited to add: didn't take no for an answer 7 of the 9 years we were together)
Then 3 years ago my daughter was born. During that delivery (which was super fast) I tore both directions (I was told I tore all the way up to my clitoris.. I'm still unsure how exactly that effects me) and one of the tears downward was a 3rd degree tear. I had an episiotomy in that delivery also.
After our daughter was 5 months there wasn't a lot of sex from then on.
I'm now in a good relationship and I know sex will be coming up soon. I haven't had sex in over 1 1/2 years. I don't know if I will still feel pain or if the skin will be super tight again. I don't know what to expect and I really don't want our first time to be painful or be bad.
Any suggestions? Or what was your experience like?
[This message edited by courageous at 10:33 AM, April 3rd (Wednesday)]
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012
Exwh married his AP
My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.