I had some business things to deal with with STBX, face to face for the first time in 9 months. I used to tremble at the sight of his name in my inbox. I would literally throw up every time I heard his voice. Today when I saw him, nothing. No hives, no shaking hand or trembling legs, and only once or twice I threw up just a little in my mouth. Anytime he said something off subject, the redirect came easy, and the majority of the time, when he spoke, all I could think was, "I am co-parenting with a f***ing muppet!" I don't remember who was the one to say that, but THANK YOU!! The voices in my head were laughing constantly and it made it difficult to get caught up in unnecessary drama. I also ended up with a crazy case of the yawns!
Today was a day of victory in the healing process, thank you to all my SI friends, you have helped this girl more than you can ever imagine!!
They left a lasting impression on me too.
Good on you CF! progress.
And the co parenting with a muppet....
Glad it went well. You did the hard work to get this far... Don't forget that. We can give all the advice in the world... you taking what you could use and working with it-got you to where you are today.
Awesome..
K
DIVORCED!!
Feels good looking at them in the rear view mirror, doesn't it?
“The most difficult times for many of us are the ones we give ourselves.” ― Pema Chödrön
A thousand times YES!! I am still feeling empowered and amazed at how much life has changed in this past year. Experiences that could have easily destroyed me and yet, although crushed for a time, life goes on. While it isn't the life I had planned, I am realizing that in some ways it is just, well, better.
It still puts a a smile on my face.
My full quote was "I am co-parenting with a fucking muppet. And not even one of the important ones, a lower muppet".
I had to see monster for our first court session today and I had to stop myself giggling after I thought: "Yep - still a lower muppet for sure".
Laughter really is the best medicine.
[This message edited by StrongButBroken at 4:24 AM, April 4th (Thursday)]
Prior to false R I was really getting there, but false R brought DDay, which brought me back down to hell.
I've wondered at loose timetables for when I can be more detatched and I like how CF was able to describe the reactions that I have as well.
I also had/have panic attacks, because I don't know if I see STBXH, will he ignore me or make a fight if he doesn't ignore me?
The term "co parenting" is an interesting one, because STBXH is pretty half-assed and doesn't do what he said he would.
NL (Neighbor Lady) is three years past divorce and says, "It's like I have three sons! DS9 is the most responsible of all!
You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess
Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.
-George Washington
"It's like I have three sons! DS9 is the most responsible of all!
I can relate to this^^^^
Every encounter with him is like talking to a 4 year old and I'm not joking.
It has helped that I realize now that he knows he cannot get me riled up, so he really tries to when it comes to our children, visitation, etc. So, I don't give him the satisfaction of an argument.
me BS 52 him - 46 married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12 children - ds15 ds12 d-day 12-19-11 I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day Divorce filed
