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purplejacket4 posted 4/3/2013 12:45 PM

As Medical Director of a Division I school I have to deal with many college students in deep distress. We have a committee that deals with these students and I get to be the doctor that takes care of the majority of them. So while my coworkers are taking care of colds and urinary tract infections I'm hearing the absolute most depressing stories of depression, anxiety, loss, betrayal, etc., etc. After awhile it starts to really get to you. I was trained to do SOME mental health not ALL mental health. I guess I'm just feeling tired and drained.

I cannot talk to fWS about it right now because she is taking her boards on Friday and is beyond panicked. The medical boards are only taken once every TEN years so when something is that infrequent it really builds up to being this horrible thing. She is actually home from work trying to study/ take care of her increasing panic attacks.

I cannot discuss with my parents. Besides HIPAA obviously they just don't get it. Neither are in the medical or mental health field.

So YOU get to be my sounding board today! Isn't that great!! So come on SI buds, give the girl a hug!!

Amazonia posted 4/3/2013 13:11 PM


Lots of energy and positive mojo for you today.

Newlease posted 4/3/2013 13:12 PM

I understand - it must be very draining. If you have empathy for these people, it can leave some physic residue on you after hearing so much of it.

What can you do to take care of yourself? A massage? A couple of hours to yourself? A warm bath and a glass of wine?

Just do a little self care and let it all go.


Sending strength and peace.


bbee posted 4/3/2013 13:16 PM

Do you have time for some IC for yourself? (((pj)))

Also, mojo to fWS!

silverhopes posted 4/3/2013 13:26 PM


Like newlease said, how can you take care of yourself today? I know those students must appreciate you being there for them.

ajsmom posted 4/3/2013 13:29 PM

Here you go:


I had three kids in college at one time. I can only imagine what you've been through.

Thank you for all you do for these folks!


tryingagain74 posted 4/3/2013 13:52 PM

Thanks for all that you do, pj4. One of the nicest things that helped to get me through DDay and the ensuing aftermath was when my OB/GYN kindly listened to me sob and tell her why I was there being tested for STDs. She gave me a great pep talk and a hug. I truly felt better after that appointment, even though it was horribly embarrassing for me to have to be tested for STDs.

So, believe me-- good docs are worth their weight in gold. The students are lucky to have you.


WakingFromADream posted 4/3/2013 13:55 PM


StillGoing posted 4/3/2013 14:00 PM

A friend of mine got burned out doing that. He had a degree is psychology and some other related fields, but quit that and moved into IT instead after several years. I think what bothered him the most was the cavalier attitude of his colleagues and seniors though.

Most cheerful helpdesk guy ever.

authenticnow posted 4/3/2013 14:01 PM


I coordinate a crisis hotline and there are days when I answer the calls and I realize how mental illness, depression, anxiety, etc., have such a profound effect on so many people. It is very, very sad.

[This message edited by authenticnow at 3:05 PM, April 3rd (Wednesday)]

Jrazz posted 4/3/2013 14:15 PM


jo2love posted 4/3/2013 14:55 PM


Thank you for helping all those students that are in need. You make a difference in their life.

Remember you rock!

InTheRabbitHole posted 4/3/2013 15:04 PM

PJ, thank you for helping out these students. I had a rough go of it in university, I was raped and found out I had a pretty serious health issue. The medical team at the clinic probably kept me from doing something horrible to myself.

Please make sure you also take care of PJ! She's pretty special and needs to be looked after as well.

sisoon posted 4/3/2013 15:07 PM


(signed) sisoon, a grad of a purple & white HS who suffers from the depredations of a purple & white university...

nowiknow23 posted 4/3/2013 15:15 PM

(((((((pj)))))))) 70,000 ears here for you.

Being the rock is exhausting stuff. Please take some time to clear yourself of the negativity however you can.

Sending strength and comfort to you, and mojo for the boards to your fWS.

jrc1963 posted 4/3/2013 15:44 PM


sullymeishadomi posted 4/3/2013 16:51 PM


purplejacket4 posted 4/3/2013 22:41 PM

Thanks guys! I spent the evening teaching med students at the free clinic so that was fun. Too bad I had to come home to formally wandering grumpy cat I mean spouse!! Meow! I can't wait for her test to be over!

caregiver9000 posted 4/3/2013 22:59 PM

(((more hugs)))

rebuild the energy stores.

Kajem posted 4/3/2013 23:19 PM

AS a mom to (presently) 3 college kids... and adding one in the fall.... THANK YOU for being there for these kids.

It really does ease this mommy's mind... just a bit to know that you are available to them.

Sending restful/peaceful/rejuvenating mojo your way... and test taking mojo to your partner.



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