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User Topic: 4 years ago today
tesla
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I adopted my husky. I didn't know she was going to end up mine. Ex-shat had been wearing me down about a dog ever since we met. But we were never in a dog friendly place...his work caused him to travel...I wasn't interested in taking care of animals. Finally, after my son was born and I was staying home, I gave him the green light to find a dog. Of course he wanted a puppy from some backyard breeder puppy mill...I couldn't stomach that, so I found this great northern breed rescue...showed him the pics of all the beautiful dogs and he latched onto Lie-Lie. He had to have her. So, being the good little codependent wife I was, I dropped everything and made it happen.

Even though I took care of all the vetting, all the training, feeding, excercising, spoiling...ex-shat always thought of her as his dog. There were a couple of times that she got loose and if you are familar with northern breeds you know that they don't have a sense of territory. Ex-shat would take her running away as a personal slight against him, as if she was doing it on purpose...as if she was disloyal to the pack. (I know, the irony, right?) Both times he went out looking for her...the first time he found her, he beat her. The second time she ran when she saw him and I ended up with her...he wanted to beat her again but I wouldn't let him. She's a husky for god's sake, running is what she does.

I'm glad that he didn't get her. She deserves to live out the rest of her days in a peaceful, stable home. She deserves a great big back yard where the squirrels, chipmunks, mice, rabbits and possums had better beware.


I'm posting this in NB because I realized that she is getting an NB of her own. She doesn't have to slink away and hide when she hears raised voices (When ex-shat and I would fight, she would go hide). She gets to travel with me everywhere these days. This summer, while Teslet is on vacation with his dad, the pup and I are going camping and hiking. Her time with me will outlast my time in my marriage. It will also be much more satisfying and fulfilling.

Happy adoption anniversary, Lie-Lie:)


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4830 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
lieshurt
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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Lie-Lie is so beautiful. I'm glad she's with you.


A relationship without trust is like a car without gas. You can stay in it all you want, but it won't go anywhere.

Posts: 13881 | Registered: Mar 2007 | From: Houston
nutmegkitty
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Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 1:53 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy Gotcha Day to you and Lie Lie!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2624 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
HurtsButImOK
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Default  Posted: 1:54 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I cant believe he beat her, what an ass-hat. You and Teslet are so much better off without that dick.

slight t/j

Ex-shat would take her running away as a personal slight against him

^^^This^^^ makes me wonder if the need for validation from pets is a symptom of a wayward. Mine was the same, took it as a personal affront if our dogs (now my dogs) didnt show over-excitement at 'missing' him when he was away.

end t/j

So glad Lie-Lie found you.

[This message edited by HurtsButImOK at 1:57 PM, April 4th (Thursday)]


Me: Awesome - 35.... ummm, not anymore

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou


Posts: 756 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
Newlease
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Default  Posted: 2:21 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Dogs are sometimes smarter than humans. They tend to gravitate to people who they know will care for them.

NL


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

Posts: 7807 | Registered: Aug 2005
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 2:42 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I feel like dogs are the perfect counterbalance for the codependent - they actually do appreciate us.

I'm so glad you and Lie-Lie found one another.


However... tesla... this thread really needs pictures.


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13934 | Registered: Jul 2011
cmego
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Default  Posted: 3:05 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Adopting a pup is the best thing I have done recently. I know he is a "Divorce Dog", but I love his presence, especially when the kids are gone.

Sounds like a great dog! You are both lucky!


me...BS, 44 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced


Posts: 4284 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: South
SBB
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Default  Posted: 3:08 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Ah tesla. You've made me cry this morning. So lovely.

And who the fuck beats an animal, seriously.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:13 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I've been thinking since I posted that I actually bought the bullshit that lielie was his dog. I did everything for that animal but in my head I always referred to her as ex-shat's. How fucked up is that?
Funny story: I trained her to stay off furniture and to not jump the baby gates. When I would go away to my parents' for a few days, ex-shat would try to get her to sleep in bed or to jump the gates. She never would. She would just sit and look at him and then go into her kennel
I completely forgot about that.

Here's some pics:

Lie-Lie at my folks' house this past Easter.

Sleeping:

She's a Red Wings fan:

Enjoying the new ride:

Relaxing after a particularly rough day:

And finally, giving her human some loving!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4830 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
Williesmom
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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She's gorgeous. Thaks so much for adopting.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7866 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
persevere
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Default  Posted: 9:32 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Omg Tesla, she is SO pretty!! So glad you have her, but still sad he took the other dog. FTG.

I'm so glad I kept the dog XWH thought of as HIS. I told him he was too effing crazy for me to trust him with our ridgeback. Which was certainly true....


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4715 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Amazonia
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Default  Posted: 9:41 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

she's soooooo cute

And I love that pic of you two together


"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13934 | Registered: Jul 2011
Kajem
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Default  Posted: 10:17 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is beautiful!!! How lucky she is to have you.

Hugs,

K


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 5744 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
courageous
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Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, April 4th (Thursday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

She is absolutely beautiful! It makes me miss my dog all the more I had to rehome my dog when we separated because I moved in with my parents and they don't care for dogs and have a fence. Exwh wouldn't keep the dog for the sake of the kids. He actually said that one of the pros for leaving me for mow would be to get away from my dog.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

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Posts: 669 | Registered: Jan 2012
SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:01 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Gorgeous girl. She's definitely yours.

And tesla.... bam chicka bam bam. You are a fox!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5734 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
exhausted lady
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Default  Posted: 1:22 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a beautiful dog! Thank you for sharing the pics. The one of the two of you is great.....you two go together like peas & carrots.

t/j - I've begun looking for a new GSD female to take over the empty doggy space in my life. My girl died on Valentine' Day, and I really miss having a good dog. You photos have inspired me to double up on my efforts in that direction. Wish me luck! end t/j

Enjoy your furry friend!


Sometimes the hardest part of finally seeing through someone is accepting what you see...

God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to
change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
-Reinhold Neibuhr


Posts: 3168 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: Colorado
Vulcanized
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Default  Posted: 3:09 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

What a gorgeous dog! I love the scarf pic ... that team is my #2.


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
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Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 784 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
stretch13
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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

you are both just as pretty and cute as could be. i love how single and relaxed you look. you look like the kind of chic i'd like to laugh over a beer or two with. i love this adoptiversary post.

i think about my pup's "new beginning" too! i got my giant dog in the divorce. he was asshat's, rescued as puppy, but XH had no where to keep a dog, and never gave "dog support" or came and helped care for him like he promised he would. like you, i never would have gotten a dog on my own. at first, i was overwhelmed with just too many things and creatures to care for. i investigated rehoming him out of guilt for how little positive attention he was getting.

then peterpan came along. roscoe loved him up and now it's impossible to imagine him being anything other than our awesome family dog. he's H's buddy now (which i'm sure devastates the replaced XH)and he gets walks, attention, runs, frisbee, roadtrips, bed snuggles and first class love and care. it's even DD4s job now to feed him. i'm SO glad i got him and kept him.

my big big boy (fixed but he'd make a great date for lie lie, lol.):

and tesla - lie lie, really? who named her? first of all it's very pretty...but i couldn't help but think how symbolic it is given your FT's affinity for lying his ass off. i snorted when i read it actually. we kept the name the rescue had for our dog.

[This message edited by stretch13 at 5:12 AM, April 5th (Friday)]


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Posts: 3929 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: east coast
curiouswiz
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Default  Posted: 6:04 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

I love this post too and hey you are a beautiful woman! Thanks for the pics, it is so nice to have a lovely face to put with your kindnesses here.

I used to get the dogs all excited when he pulled up and let them out to greet him. He thought it was his presence. Yeah, after I said go get him!

He too tried many times to take my babies and all I had to do was say to them "Stay with Mama" and they came running to hide behind me. Heh.


God bless us, everyone.

Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Boston
phmh
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Default  Posted: 6:34 AM, April 5th (Friday), 2013View ProfileEdit MessagePrivate MessageHomepage

Happy anniversary. She is gorgeous, and I'm so glad you kept her.


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

Character is destiny


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