I think you've got to go with your gut and since you mentioned co-Dep in your post, id say you'd need to sort that first.
After my first separation during engagement due to an affair, (with a young child) i waited maybe 3 years before getting to know the guy then another two years of being friends to get into a relationship with him. i was happy to be on my own, thought i had worked on my issues, loved him completely and thought he just is the one at any cost - but it turned out he was still a cheater at heart too, just better disguised than DD's dad.
IMHO its really definitely better to do ALL the healing, by yourself, completely. first of all.
all the loneliness is a Bugger, cs it makes you think you've done most of the work you know roughly everything, now let someone in - but if you're not healed, you'll be repeating the pattern.
i know i was hoping to be rescued by this guy because there were parts of me that weren't healed, and he was hoping id rescue him, and in a way we did, but then the rest of the drama triangle started - the persecution and judgement and victim-hood.
im excited about this new prospect of finding someone new too like you mentioned, its a way of your brain giving you motivation to get through the pain, accept it, but just don't blindly listen to it.
there is someone out there who can be all you need Larry, just give yourself the best headstart of figuring out what it is you need, and what youll accept and how to achieve that before you get too far down the line with them.
time isn't linear in this instance I think, if it were, it would be like a two year course we could sign up to, but unfortunately everyone's baggage is a different weight and everyone has a different capacity to deal with it.
glad to see you in NB and with no head in the sand Larry. So sorry though that WGF wasn't remorseful.
But you're a good guy, you'll be ok. get working on yourself, we come into this world alone and we die alone so why wouldn't we expect to fix our problems on our own, before we share our lives with anyone else, our lives are precious not a heavy sack to be handed over to whoever thinks they might be the right person. They're ours to deal with, THEN to share with who we deem the most worthy.