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WishingForLethe posted 4/5/2013 15:11 PM

So far my BH and I have been getting along really well even discussing the D details.

We were kind of bantering back and forth, and the OM came up. It was not a big deal at first, I was joking I would put in the decree that if the OM ever heard about the D and came around, he would be obligated to come over and kick his ass.

Then I realized...I could not remember OM's last name. Honestly- I totally blanked. Thought about is few minutes- nothing. In fact, BH had to remind me what it was.

So basically I wrecked my M and destroyed part of the soul of my BH and for what- someone whose last name i can no longer remember.

It has been awhile since the shame overwhelmed me, but it did. I wish we could have an intervention CD with all of our stories to magically send out to people who are considering an A.

I have worked through a lot of "whys" and grown so much, but it sometimes feels like I cured s splinter in the finger by cutting off my hand.

badchoice posted 4/5/2013 15:17 PM

"it sometimes feels like I cured s splinter in the finger by cutting off my hand."

Right there with you on this. My BW says that we could have worked on all of our issues with the M if I would have just spoken to her, nothing was so horrible that I had to go nuclear on her, so I know what you mean.

pizzalover posted 4/5/2013 18:35 PM

Right there with you on this. My BW says that we could have worked on all of our issues with the M if I would have just spoken to her, nothing was so horrible that I had to go nuclear on her, so I know what you mean.

I wish I would have spoken to my BH. I can't believe that I lived in such fear that he wouldn't have addressed the problems. I live in fear. It's not helpful to me.

sailorgirl posted 4/5/2013 19:57 PM

Wishing, can I just say that I've been following your posts and you're nowhere near being an idiot.

I see the seeds of the growth you've had in my WH, and it gives me hope.

t/j
I know you'll have a fulfilling life either way, but I wish for your BH's sake that he could see what a strong, wise and deep love he is giving up.

[This message edited by sailorgirl at 11:49 PM, April 5th (Friday)]

WishingForLethe posted 4/6/2013 19:32 PM

Sailor girl - I can't thank you enough for you kindness. I pray your WS appreciates pulls himself and becomes worth of you.

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