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FR2012 posted 4/7/2013 08:31 AM

My husband has told me that eventually he would like to renew our vows. I am the one the screwed everything up in our marriage by having an A 5 months after we got married.

So I feel like I screwed it all up and I want to make new vows to him and never break them. We are happy now and life is going so good. I want him to know that I am all in completely and I feel like this will be one way I can show him.

I guess what I am asking is has anyone renewed their vows since D-Day.
When did you feel it was right to do?
How long after D-Day did you do it?

I just want some insight.
Thanks.

authenticnow posted 4/7/2013 08:37 AM

Leccden and I did it, but not with any pomp and circumstance.

I guess you can say we didn't 'officially' renew them, but we did it for us, in our eyes.

Two years after d-day we went back to the island where we honeymooned, went to a quiet spot on the beach at sunset, spoke words to each other that we felt we wanted to share in that moment, toasted our marriage with Red Stripe beer in champagne glasses, and watched the sunset.

I guess you could say this was our official 'vow renewal'. For us, it was a rededication to each other and our future together.

BaxtersBFF posted 4/7/2013 08:40 AM

tearing up here AN...

authenticnow posted 4/7/2013 08:43 AM

pizzalover posted 4/7/2013 09:20 AM

Tearing up as well. I desperately hope that happens for me. I fucked up my life so badly. I feel so lost.

tired girl posted 4/7/2013 10:49 AM

Hlessons and I did something similar as AN.

We spoke the new promises we wanted to make to each other this past Oct. on our 25th anniv. with our kids standing around us.

We had also melted our rings down, and also melted my grandparents rings in with it to make us new rings. We exchanged those new rings when we spoke the new promises we made to each other.

It felt like we really understood finally what we were promising to each other. Much more than when we were 19.

I think there are pics of it down in the picture thread.

heforgotme posted 4/7/2013 11:00 AM

WH wants to do this, but I am not in a place yet where this sounds good to me.

If he didn't honor them the first time, what is the point in taking them again?

This is where I am right now and I hope it will change bc he wants to do this.

918Mama posted 4/7/2013 13:15 PM

Total T/J but...

AN and TG...that is seriously so sweet. Where is the love emoticon?? <3

And...there's a pictures thread?!?? Where is that at?

tired girl posted 4/7/2013 13:42 PM

Thank you 918m
It is down in fun and games

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