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Renewing Vows

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 FR2012 (original poster member #36345) posted at 2:31 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

My husband has told me that eventually he would like to renew our vows. I am the one the screwed everything up in our marriage by having an A 5 months after we got married.

So I feel like I screwed it all up and I want to make new vows to him and never break them. We are happy now and life is going so good. I want him to know that I am all in completely and I feel like this will be one way I can show him.

I guess what I am asking is has anyone renewed their vows since D-Day.

When did you feel it was right to do?

How long after D-Day did you do it?

I just want some insight.

Thanks.

BH (him): 28 ~ FWW (me): 27
Together 9 years
2 kids
D-Day: April 19, 2012

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 2:37 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Leccden and I did it, but not with any pomp and circumstance.

I guess you can say we didn't 'officially' renew them, but we did it for us, in our eyes.

Two years after d-day we went back to the island where we honeymooned, went to a quiet spot on the beach at sunset, spoke words to each other that we felt we wanted to share in that moment, toasted our marriage with Red Stripe beer in champagne glasses, and watched the sunset.

I guess you could say this was our official 'vow renewal'. For us, it was a rededication to each other and our future together.

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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BaxtersBFF ( member #26859) posted at 2:40 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

tearing up here AN...

WH - 49
BW - gerrygirl

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authenticnow ( member #16024) posted at 2:43 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

DS, you are forever in my heart. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with me. I will always try to live by the example you have set. I love you and miss you every day and am sorry you had to go so soon, it just doesn't seem fair.

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pizzalover ( member #38336) posted at 3:20 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Tearing up as well. I desperately hope that happens for me. I fucked up my life so badly. I feel so lost.

Trying to rebuild each day

Me - WW 41
Him - BH 41 (mpb1974)
2 Furrbabies - sweet cats

Met - 8/13/99
Started dating - 9/11/99
Moved in together - 3/03
Engaged - 6/5/09
Married - 8/21/10
D-Day - 1/24/13
Affair started 5/09

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tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 4:49 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Hlessons and I did something similar as AN.

We spoke the new promises we wanted to make to each other this past Oct. on our 25th anniv. with our kids standing around us.

We had also melted our rings down, and also melted my grandparents rings in with it to make us new rings. We exchanged those new rings when we spoke the new promises we made to each other.

It felt like we really understood finally what we were promising to each other. Much more than when we were 19.

I think there are pics of it down in the picture thread.

Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB

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heforgotme ( member #38391) posted at 5:00 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

WH wants to do this, but I am not in a place yet where this sounds good to me.

If he didn't honor them the first time, what is the point in taking them again?

This is where I am right now and I hope it will change bc he wants to do this.

D-Day 11/15/12
5 month PA
Married 20 years, 3 kids
All good is hard. All evil is easy. Dying, losing, cheating, and mediocrity is easy. Stay away from easy.
- Scott Alexander
It was the day I thought I'd never get through - Daughtry

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918Mama ( member #37756) posted at 7:15 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Total T/J but...

AN and TG...that is seriously so sweet. Where is the love emoticon?? <3

And...there's a pictures thread?!?? Where is that at?

Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

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tired girl ( member #28053) posted at 7:42 PM on Sunday, April 7th, 2013

Thank you 918m

It is down in fun and games

Me 47 Him 47 Hardlessons
DS 27,25,23
D Day's becoming less important as time moves on.
"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent." Eleanor Roosevelt
My bad for trying to locate remorse on your morality map. OITNB

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