I felt guilty/strange at first. People like me don't get divorced.
I am a good guy and have never been into trouble.
I was totally embarrassed about my situation.
The more I read and studied about infidelity and divorce, the more it became apparent that this is unfortunately all too common.
While we all could have done some things different in our marriages, it was our X's that were broken enough to have an affair.
Once I got my divorce decree done, I went out and bought myself a new golf cart to replace the oldest one at the club I belong to.
My friends all were happy for me. I do quite well financially, but have always been a tightwad. A high percentage of my clothes come from Wal Mart.
Starting to date was really weird. I was not even interested in dating at all and then I found out my testosterone was super low.
I started taking Androgel and sure enough women were attractive again.
Saw a pic of a gal on the internet, reached out to her, and we have been dating ever since.
Dating is weird - especially in a small town. I have received lots of strange looks from people that likely don't know I am divorced. My daughter thinks I started dating too soon, but my son is OK and just met my SO this weekend.
Everyone has issues/problems. Life isn't perfect. Just lay it all out there and folks will appreciate your honesty and transparency.
I get lots of laughs on my Androgel story - and even bring it up on sales calls.
Customers think it is very funny.
I may have overdosed a bit on it since I was begging PHMH and Tesla to marry me! Had not met either one of them yet, but their running and intelligence is really attractive to me.
Purpose of this long winded message is to tell you that you have to move on and look forward. Don't feel guilty. You are still very young with a whole lot of life to look forward to.
Don't worry about what other people think but keep your kid's feelings in mind. Unless you are getting more serious or exclusive with someone, don't introduce them to your kids.
This will all get better soon.
I remember seeing your pic a while back and you are so beautiful. Your X surely knows that you would attract a lot of men out in public.
[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 2:27 PM, April 8th (Monday)]